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I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

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Ok so im trying to work things out with my bf. we have been together almost 2 years and i am now pregnant even though i was told i couldnt have kids. We have set a date for marriage but there is a problem. He will not save any money and we are stuck renting a basement apartment at a friends house and im not bringing a baby into a basement. So, i suggested that we move down south with family where we could afford the cost of living. He refuses because all of his friends are here. So since he doesnt want to come with me, should i just leave him and go by myself??? I have no family or friends here and both of our families are down south. I think he is being selfish to want me and our baby to stay in a basement just because of his friends.

Ok you are in a really tough spot, I think that honestly maybe he needs a wake-up call, you are going to need to be near family when you have your child. I would have been LOST without help from mine.

You are thinking not what is best for you but what is best for your child. I would talk to your family ask them if they are ok with you coming and go. I know it sounds harsh but your child needs to be your primary focus (which it is) so follow your gut and your heart.


Good luck.

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(Rating: 5) Another perfect answer! thank u so much, this has been my gut feeling.
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