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Hello All,
I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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hi... i am really nervous and confused about my parents, my friend says she is having a little get together for her birthday but she gave my parents no info on it and didnt give me much, just the time and where she lived, i think she is putting a fast one on her parents, i dont trust her, neither do my parents. so anyways my dad mentioned he thinks he is putting a fast on her parents and he also said kids think theyre parents are stupid but theyre not and he also told me there are a lot of things that i know about, that you dont know, that i know about... and that gave me the idea he knows about things, related to this topic ^^^ but, i am a virgin, so then i think you can guess what else it has related to this topic. i feel really bad, not sad, but more like nervous and weird that my parents might actually know, i mean this is so secret and the thought of them knowing would make me feel awkward like i do now. i know they arent mad at me, they told me they did it as kids and well mom said she did.. dad never mentioned it cause he wasnt really in those 'talks' about that stuff, i usually kept a quiet mouth...i think billie joe armstrong is cute, but if i didnt i would still have my posters on my wall cause he is cool, and dad and i were wondering if we should go to pirates of the caribbean and well i told both mom and dad, mom please go with us cause dad seems to get aggrivated when i get giddy when see a movie and dad says its ok girls have a right to get giddy when they see a cute guy on tv and this makes me feel weird cause maybe he knows i have a crush on billie joe, and possibly one guy in each movie i see...this is awkard and new for me and he might know that i .(hmmm) and have a crush on guys.. i was never able to tell my crush at school when i was younger and whenever i am watching a show or movie on tv, whenever two people kiss and i am watching it with my parents, i get nervous.. oh please help me get over this nervousness,, and is there a possible chance my dad might know about small stuff, but not the sex sutff? oh please help meeee!!!!!

Ok so the sex stuff with your dad will never get easier, I am 31, married and have a child and still at times hope my dad thinks I am a virgin...ha ha. Seriously though that is the nature sometimes of a father/daughter relationship. As for him saying he knows things, he could very well be on a fishing expedition saying he knows stuff in hopes you will confess all.

I would have talks with your mom if you feel comfortable enough, both your parents obviously love you and talking with your mom will create an open and honest relationship with her which will help you tons as you get older.

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(Rating: 4) ok thanks, its only been a few hours and the pressure of my nervouseness has died a little
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