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This is going to be long.
My best guy friend, Sam, I don't know what is going on with him! He would always flirt with me and talk to me. I heard him say that I was hot to one of his friends at the beginning of the year if that matters.
I also heard his friends tryings to guess who he was going to ask out and they kept saying my name and he didn't respond. All he did was stare at me and that day in my last class. right before the bell rang, his friend was like, "Do you like Sam?" and I was like, "Ummmm...No. Why?" and hes like, "Oh, just wondering." and he went out the door.
on my birthday I had invited sam to my party, which was that weekend. I took 10 of my best friends to a movie. While we were in line waiting for the popcorn, he asked if i was going to the dance on tuesday and I said, "Oh. Probably." he smiled and looked at his friend and the exchanged some weird look and then his friend said, "sam doesnt have anyone to go with." and they both stared at me expecting me to say something but I just said, "oh." and we went to go sit down.
the week of the dance, he asked my best friend, Sarah, out. She kept saying, "he barely even talks to me!" but he would only talk to her or hug her when I was around.
during the last class of the day, his best friend asked me again, "would you ever go out with sam?" and I said, "uhhhhhhh i dont know! why do you keep asking me that?!" and he was like, "Dunno..HE MIGHT LIKE YOU!" and I gave him a weird look and he said, "IM JOKING! IM JOKING!" but he didnt sound like it.
But, he broke up with sarah and started going out with taylor again and all he did was ignore me and he wasn't nice to me at all unless she wasn't anywhere close to us. I talked to jake and he said that sam answers when he calls but I've tried to call him many times over the summer but he never answers the phone.
So, I don't understand what he's doing! Does he like me or not?! (link)
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Okay, judging by your story, I think this is what happened-
Sam started to have feelings for you one day and consulted his freinds. Sams friends decided to try and help but it looks to me like they may have done more damage than help. You see, teenage boys are incredibly stupid when it comes to girls and have no idea how to express themselves properly, so they rely on their dumb friends to get tthe message across or just hope to God that you will figure it out yourself. Both are bad methods. This isn't the only place Sam screwed up. Sam was trying to make you jealous by asking out Sarah, seeing as he barely knew her and that he dumped her shortly after, probly because he saw that this wouldn't win you over any faster. Now Sam is obviously mad and maybe a little hurt that he couldn't get you, so he is ignoring you. It seems to me that Sam is being immature, I think you should be the bigger person and approach him. If you don't feel that way about him, you should let him know. It's not your fault, you can't help how you feel about guys. If you think you may like him, give him a chance. Go on a date and see how things go, but just let him know that no mtter how things turn out, your friendship is valuable to you and you don't want to jeopardize it. Trust me, a guy friend fell for me, I wasn't sure if I liked him, so I gave him a chance, and now he's my boyfriend. We've been happily together for almost five months.
I hope this was helpful to you.
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