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I am counsellor with over 12 years experience specializing in parenting, families, youth and mental health. I answer questions in a blunt and straightforward way so if you are looking for coddling or really touchy feely type advice thats not me I provide real solutions for your problems and concrete suggestions in other words I tell you the plain truth I don't sugarcoat.

I am really worried these days with the easy access to the internet and all the false information that is out there and the fact that people believe it!! So please ask first. I don't claim to have all the answers but I can claim that NOTHING will shock me you can try though :)

I look forward to hearing you thoughts and questions.

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recently i learned how completly nieve ive been. it turns out like a ton of people at my school cut themselves and i didn't notice at all. these are people im rwally close to...one's my best friend but you don't know her so as i promised i probably dont have to kill myself for telling you. you know i dont want her to hurt herself and what hurts me even more is that she says its the only thing that makes her happy. when i think about it i dont feel like im thinking a bout the same bff ive had since 1st grade and i just want her to stop. shes trying but im afriad if she doesn't have a theat it wont work. i dont want to tell an adult(well canr really) and i dont want her to be unhappy...but i DONT WANT HER TO KEEP DOING IT! How can i tell her to stop? and this doesn't mean shes like a masochist does it?

First off cutting is an addiction and she may not be able to stop. You need to talk to an adult and make sure she gets help.

As for what gatekeeper or Jon said, Manic Depression has NOTHING to do with cutting. Manic depression is when you have extreme highs and lows it is also called bi-polar disorder and is an extremely serious diagnosis.

Clinical Depression could be one of the reasons behind your friend cutting but she needs professional help to diagnose this and get her treatment. By telling you are not hurting your friend or being a bad friend you could be saving her life so even if she gets mad she will realize that your actions show how much you truly care.

Hope this helps

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(Rating: 3) thanx 4 the end part but i said masochist. like when you find joy in abuse
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