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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.

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a few nights ago i was with a friend and two older boys (3 years) weve hung out before, and this guy pressured me into haveing sex with him but i wouldnt. i dont like im or anything its just a hookup. the thing is im a virgin and hes not and then i was drunk a few nights ago and ended up doing something im starting to really regret. sex. i lost my virginity to someone i dont even like he made it seem like it wasnt a big deal and everyones had it so i just gave in. at first i was okay with it but now im starting to think.. what am i going to telll my next boyfriend? or my friends? i dont know if i should just forget about this whole thing and say im a virgin. im just getting upset and i dont know who to turn to and im not going to a councelor or anything. i guessi just need some moral support.. thank you
and no we did not use a condom, we were in a hot tub and he swore to me that he would pull out before, but we didnt even get that far into it i think. plus hs going off to college and hates kids. so im pretty sure im safe. please help thank you

No boy should EVER pressure you. He is not a good friend or a person, and I hope you distance yourself away from him and his friends. Sex is supposed to be between two very emotionally involved individuals. Everyone makes mistakes though, and obviously you admit it was a mistake. It was a bad idea not to use a condom, so please (no matter who the guy is or what he says) always make sure he wears a condom.

You have to be strong and confident about the situation. Realize that it was a one time thing and from now on, you will wait until YOU are ready, not when HE is. If your future boyfriend or your friends are any less than understanding, they don't deserve to be in your life. You sound like a girl who knows when she's messed up & wants to make things right, which shows you are mature. It would be a good idea to take a pregnancy test if you miss your period though, just to be safe. And "pulling out" is NOT a good birth control method, don't listen to guys who say they will do that (Pre-cum can get you pregnant)

Good luck with everything & be safe always!

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