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Okay, here's what's going on in my life right now - I just recently got out of a relationship, and I'm reacting to the breakup kind of strangely. I never really cried, but I keep feeling my eyes burn and my throat tighten. I never cry for more than like, 30 seconds.
I've always had kind of a habit of forcing myself not to cry, and I'm worried that it's gone too far. I feel like, emotionally numb. I'm not upset or angry, I'm just kind of...there.
Physically, I have no appetite, and no energy. Thing is, I'm trying to lose weight. I weigh about 130 and I'm 5'4". My goal is 118, and I've been doing like, Atkins and South Beach - both work really well, by the way.
I know anorexia is not the way to go and it's insanely unhealthy, but I don't want to eat if I'm not hungry...and I'm never hungry. The other day I didn't eat until around 3pm, and picked at what I got. I'm also having major sleep problems...
I'm basically falling apart, and I don't know what to do.
I NEED to lose the weight, is my main thing. I hate my body and I always have. I want the image I have in my mind...but I don't have the motivation to work out recently. What I thought I might do is try to lose fat and hit 118, then start toning. I know I'll gain muscle, but at least if I hit 118 first, then tone, I'll know it's muscle.
Anyway, I don't know what's going on with my reaction to breaking up, and I don't know how to fix it. I actually tried to make myself cry, and I got like, one tear. I was with this guy for quite awhile, and we had an amazing connection. Why am I not more upset?
I don't understand it.
In any case, I wanna hear what you guys have to say, so speak up.
Pay attention to your spelling and grammar, please. I'll rate you down if it's incorrect.

Hey,
It sounds to me like you may be clinically depressed. When a person gets depressed not only is one of the symptoms trouble sleeping but also a change in your appetite is a red flag. Many people believe that with depression it is the opposite that you sleep all the time and eat constantly, however, it can also be the opposite. I would suggest that if this does not improve soon that you visit a health care professional to discuss options that would benefit you.

As for the not eating and its effect on your weight loss plan when you don't eat your body actually starts to store fat because it doesn't know when more food is coming. This makes it much harder to lose weight. I would suggest that you at least try to eat something small and healthy like fruit or a salad. I know on Atkins that you are not allowed fruit though so maybe try eating one of the Atkins bars would be a good idea for you?

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(Rating: 5) Thanks...it's not like I'm not eating, I'm just not eating as much as I normally do...like, at all...I'll keep that in mind, though.
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