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I'm 13/f and I'm having trouble with my body image. I used to be overweight (about 2 years ago) but then my mom helped me get into a better diet and now I'm not SO overweight and fat. Over the past few months I've been starting to eat sweets here and there but I'm still exercising a lot. The feeling of "Oh my gosh I've gotten so fat" suddenly came on in the past month. I have even gained weight and I'm really, really close to being over weight according to the weight chart. I will admit that I'm one of those girls who says "I'm fat" in front of my friends and especially my mom and expect to hear "oh no you're not." So when I said "I've gained a lot of weight!!! GOSH I'm starting to get so fat again..." to my mom she didn't say anything like "you're over reacting...you look just fine." She simply said "well, you're going to have to work on that." I was shocked =O I couldn't believe that even she had started to notice (and in a way agreed with me) and now I'm starting to wonder if other people notice. So...I got really depressed about it...and said to myself "if I could just be skinny I'd feel so much better about myself..." I hate thinking that the only way to get thin is to just not eat. I also realize I'm putting how I LOOK in front of my HEALTH and it's bothering me that I am ignoring what becoming a semi-anorexic would do to my health. I'm not exactly "huge" but I do have plenty of extra pounds I want to get rid of. At the moment I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. When I talked to my mom she just said "well, you need to get back into eating healthy" but I am and it ISN'T WORKING. She also says "You are also over reacting about becoming anorexic. you're being such a drama queen." HELLO! I'M SERIOUS HERE!! and i don't plan on becoming skin and bones. I really need some advice on what to do...I'm worrying myself by the way I'm thinking! =[

I know where you're coming from, honey, and you're definitely not alone. As long as you are in the normal range of the weight chart, you're fine. Could you improve upon your health? Yes, and its good that you recognized that. But you also have to realize that you lost a great deal of weight and took a giant step to being healthier, and you should definitely be proud of that.

As to the "semi-anorexic" thing... I was just like you. During lunch, I never ate, and when I did, it was half of a 100 calorie pack. I starved myself until dinnertime, where I didn't even eat my full meal. It didn't pay off. I only lost 2 pounds a month. Now that I'm eating more and eating correctly, I can loose an easy 4 pounds a month if I try hard enough. So, my point is, eat, and eat right, because you actually gain weight by skipping meals.

I know your self image is suffering right now, but you need to be confident in yourself. You are beautiful inside and out at this very second, and you will still be just as beautiful, no more, no less, if you loose your weight. But, you will be healthier. If you loose too much weight, you won't be so healthy anymore. Once you are in the middle range of your weight chart, I would stop trying to loose your weight. Maintain the diet and exercise, just allow yourself to splurge every now and then on a sweet or two.

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