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so about two months ago i found out that my best friend basically was talking about me behind my back, so i told her off and we both got really pissed and just stopped talking. last week she apologized and it seemed like she meant it so i told her it was ok. so the other day she was at my house and she was on advicenators.com, and i guess she forgot to log out because today i came onto this site and clicked on "your questions" and saw that they werent mine so i was confused and i clicked on one. in it she basically bashed our whole group of six friends, she said only herself and my two other friends were pretty and she said one of them was only pretty "sometimes". then she continued to talk about another friend (who even though she used a different name, i could tell was me because she talked about the same stuff that she was using to talk about me behind my back) and how she thought that i COULD be pretty but im ugly right now and how can she help me. but she made it sound like im some person who doesnt know how to take care of myself, like i have no idea how to use a razor and i never wash my face so its all greasy, which is NOT true. i started shaving even before she did! and im not sure how i should react cause in one way its flattering that she cares about me enough to want to help me with my "problems", but in another way im insulted because she said that "no guys pay attention to her" which isnt true, a bunch of guys have specifically said that they thought im hot. and she said that i always wear the same clothes and that even when its really hot out ill wear jeans and a sweatshirt, but its really mean of her to assume that because she doesnt understand that im really self conscious cause shes like the skinniest person alive shes a size 00 and im a size 5, and she doesnt know that so she talks about how her friend who is a size 3 is fat to me. and when i first the question she wrote i was so mad at her, she was making all these rude accusations when she doesnt even know the truth. it makes me not wanna be friends with her anymore knowing that she thinks of me as like a little girl who doesnt know how to take care of herself and needs "help". but i cant confront her about it cause then she'll know i was snooping on her account, even though it was an accident. what do u think i should do to prove her wrong about all that? sorry this was so long. thanks!!!

Well, has she ever done it before to you? Has she ever talked about you behind your back before this incident? If she's done it before, then it would be a good idea to end the friendship since it seems like she wont be changing any time soon and will probably continue to stab you in the back in the near future.

But if this was her first time in being rude to you or making mean comments about you, then you ought to forgive her and remain friends with her. Because it could have been just a bad mistake she did and she didn't mean it. But if she does it again in the future, find yourself a new best friend who wont talk trash about you behind your back. i hope i helped :)

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(Rating: 5) thanks for the help! its actually her first time so i guess ill give her a second chance.
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