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Okay, so I'm pretty much a hardcore soccer player. I play it often. But my mom is always thinking she knows so much about it, and I tell you she doesn't.
She yells at me for stupid mistakes, for everything that goes wrong in our house, and finds ways to call me a loser, loner, and that I suck at stuff, without actually saying it. She's called me a bitch so many times I couldn't count. But my real question is, is what she doing really abuse?
People have told me it was, but I just don't know anymore. She did physically abuse me ages 7-10, maybe that's why I'm not sure or not. And I've been depressed, at least I think a lot. She's making me want to quit soccer from all the camps and stress. And many of my close soccer friends are scared of that because I'm that one girl on the team who puts on a good additude, never gives up, gives it her all, knows what she needs to fix, and would miss what is important to her just to play. And I also go outside and practice often. And I just can't play well anymore and starting not to love it.
so is it abuse?
any help or advice would be amazing. (link)
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Since I don't know what your definition of abuse in (from age 7-10) I am going to answer this under the assumption that she did not do anything excessive.
The way she talks to you is inappropriate and it obviously has a very negative impact on the way you feel. Depending on how often this occurs, it could possibly be a type of verbal abuse, but that isn't really the issue. The issue is what are you going to do about it? You love soccor and want to play without her interference...and you need her to lay off of the language and negativity. Talk to your school counselor for ideas on how to get her to stop and how to approach her. I seriously doubt anyone will call social services over this, but you do need some help dealing with her, it's just unhealthy. The counselor know how to deal with this, it's their job. They can help you.
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thank you very much. It happens a lot. You helped me understand that is. thanks.
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