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Age: 24
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My ex girlfriend and I, of about 2 years, broke up back in Feb. It ended because I cheated and she didn't talk to me for like 3 months after it happened.
We've finally started talking towards the end of May. I know she doesn't want to get back together with me so I at least want to be friends.
So, now, when we hang out everything will be going fine until something reminds her of our break up and what I did to her. She then picks a fight with me and tries to get me to argue back with her.
How can I get her over this phase so we can actually hang out without her freaking out on me? Please don't tell me to give her time. I already gave her 3 months. 18/m
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Three months is nothing for a long and rather serious relationship that ended in a hurtful way. Yes, she obviously needs much more time. I would like to point out that as you get older, you realize that it is hard to be real friends with someone who you dated seriously (sometimes even casually). Most adults don't try to persue friendships after a break-up, especially one that ended in a hurtful manner. There are just too many complicated feelings involved that take a very long time to heal, and sometimes never go away. I would have to ask why you two are so hell bent on being friends if you really aren't interested in each other anymore. I think the best thing to do is to go your separate ways. It may not seem like what you want to do, but you'll be more inclined to this point of view as you get older. Often times, it really is the best thing.
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There are still feelings...I said in my question that I want to at least be friends with her since I know she won't want to get back with me.
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