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14 will be 15 in 6 days/f

ok so my best friend(who is 15) for 8 years was dating this guy named Fred(not his real name,just turned 18) and they dated for about 3 months when he cheated on her and she dumped him but me and fred kept talking on the phone (since i live 3 hours away from my bestfriend and fred) and fred was about to move a lot closer to me. So we started talking about hooking up (since we both have problems with cheating)and trying to have an open relationship. Which sounds bad but i am the type of girl that doesn't ever get jelous and understands that everyone messes up. You can call me a whore if you want. we have a lot in common and we seem perfect for each other. but resently i found out that my best friend still likes him so i backed off and let her have him until he moved. and then he finally told me that he didn't like her anymore and asked me not to tell her that so i didn't until it kinda slipped out. and he wasn't mad at me cause he was moving the next day. and so everybody was ok but my bestfriend who is now claiming that he is her first true love but my bestfriend has a clinging problem with guys and this is like the fiftyth guy she has said is her first true love plus since i told her he didn't really like her she has started "talking" to this guy chris which was something fred doesn't know. Now this is where the real problem comes in. so me and fred decided to keep our plans and try dating. So he said he was going to come all the way to where i live and stay the weekend at a cabin his family owns and asked me to come hang out with him during the days. I said yes and then called my bestfriend to tell her about out plans. i said hi and instead of saying hi back she said your not f***ing going and i'm gonna kick your ass if you do because i still love him which pissed me off because i know she doesn't and i know she is and has been "talking" to chris. So now we are not talking. I want to make up with her but i really want to be with fred not only because we have the same views on almost everything but because he makes me happy and i've been really depressed lately. And my best friend always does this. If she even thinks that me and one of her ex's are going to start dating she starts telling me if i date them then our friendship is over. So i have always gave into her and told the guy no but i getting tired of it and like i said i really want to be with him. So my question is should i date him and lose her or should i give into her again and leave him alone. And there is no inbetween with her.

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i really don't know what to do

well i'm not having in good friends these days and all my friends seem to be guys so i tihnk maybe you guys might want to be friends with benifits so you can still be happy but stilll have a friend ask yourself would you rather have a friend or a boyfriend ? i think that would relly help you out there... but if you really have big emotion for this guy and go out but then you guys end up breking up then you lost a friend ship for nothing but the rule of friendship says chicks before dicks but sometimes you have o bend the rules but no one can make this decesion up for you this has to come from what you think will happen in the future =) i'm sorry for this situation i know how it feels ihope i helped,Brianna

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(Rating: 5) thanks i think i'm gonna choose him i mean she is not the only friend i have and besides i just told he yes i would go out with him so wish me good luck.
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