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hi - ok so i really like this guy. he lives like down the road from me, and we have gone out before. we dont go to the same school, so when we went out it was hard to see each other b/c we are both involved in sports. when we went out we both cheated on eachother, and since we never saw eachother - we just thought it was best to break up. btw, i was his first gf, first kiss, first like everything. this was all in february. now its june, and i want a new chance at him. he says that he likes me, but not enough for us to go out. he told me hes scared that if we go out, he will sqrew things up for us. bc i like him more than he likes me. i really want a second chance with him. do i deserve it? what can i do to convince him to be with me? should i move on? how? please help. i rate high

It's not a question of "deserving" him, you're just asking for pain by wanting to be with him.

What's going on is this: he's moved on and you haven't. You were his first and now he's onto his second, third, fourth... He's not looking back, so why are you? It's cool if you keep him as a friend, but do yourself a favor and stop chasing this guy.

He doesn't like you like that and if you convinced him to go out with you again he'd be bored and probably cheat on you again, and the relationship would end again.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Don't you deserve to be wanted? It's humiliating and pathetic to chase after someone who has no interest in you. You're SO much better than that; you should be with someone who's crazy about you, girl. Don't sell yourself short!

How do you move on? Stop obsessing about him. Get a hobby, learn to paint, read, start bird-watching... whatever! Work on YOURSELF; you'll be a happier, more confident person and happy confident people don't have to chase after boys--the boys chase after them.

Carollani

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(Rating: 4) i gave you a 4 because you are wrong. he hasnt moved on to his 2,3,&4. i was his first AND ONLY girlfriend. and he wasnt bored with me so he cheated, he was just at a party. but i agree with you about the last part, so i gave you a higher number. thanks.
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