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Q: Okay well this guy who claims he "likes" or "loves" me or whatever.When we talk it seems like he really does like me but then he'll suddenly tell me that he has a crush on some girl and then he'll be like are you mad? and then ill just say i dont care when i really do because he's kinda messin around with my feelings you know? and then like the next time we talk he'll jsut ignore the whole conversation we like just had the day before or like just a minute ago.I mean he tells me when he thinks certain girls are hot and stuff it just kinda bugs me but i try to look past it because i know guys have their hormones going and like they dont usually like or one certain girl,but i was just wondering if he really does like me,and why would he tell me about what other girls he thinks are hott or he likes like whats the point of doing that? or is it just a thing all guys do ?

thank you.

I think he's trying to make you jealous, because he requires some kind of "validation" from you about your feelings for him. He wants you to be bothered by the fact he likes other girls, because that shows you really like him.
I think he does probably like you, but he's definitley going the wrong way about it. You should tell him how you feel, and ask him outright whether he really wants you or not. It's not right for him to mess with your feelings the way he is. I don't think he's trying to be malicious or anything -- a lot of people do this kind of thing because they're "insecure" and its the only way they feel "wanted" However, it's still not a nice thing to do. Ask him what he really wants, or else you'll never get anywhere with him.