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Q: hey im 15/f and today this girl brooke shes a grade ahead of me. And today she was just talking and she said she had to write a story for english class. And before she talked about this kid named cody and i "hooking up" but i only like him as a friend. But she is trying to hook us up and she keeps on embarrasing us and saying that we want each other bad and crap like that. Which is really making me mad! SERIOUSLY! and i told them i didn't like him. But her english story was about this girl named ashley because thats who i am. And she said that i was madly in love with cody and stuff like that. And at the end i guess he ditched me and me and his new girlfriend got in a fight. Which is really stupid. I mean cody is the class clown i like him as a friend hes funny and yea. But im getting sick and tired everyday she says that we want each other and we know it blah blah bla is there anything i can say or anything to make her stop.. ANYTHING! and im not a nark i dont go and tell teachers or anything i'll rate 5s! Thanks alot

Sounds to me like Brooke is the one who wants Cody. By any chance, does she ever see you and Cody flirting or talking? Does she see him pay attention to you? Whether or not he's really into you or just wants to be friends, I think she must see the two of you together and she assumes he likes you. This makes her jealous (c'mon, everyone's had a crush on the class clown before, right?), and she tries to get back at you in this idiotic way. Definetely trying to embarass you. She might think she can treat you like this because you're younger. Don't let her!

If Cody does seem to be interested in you and you think she's going to try and embarrass you both, mention to him that she's been acting really strange lately and what she's doing. Just be real cool and casual. Be light about it, you might even say something like, "I told her we were friends nd nothing more, but she's obsessed!" and just laugh. But if you don't get the chance to talk to him and it happens without warning, don't scream out in front of everyone "I do not like him!" all angry like. You might embarrass him. And she'd love for you to get angry. Say something like, "Brooke, we're friends and thats all," in a calm, mellow voice. If she keeps harassing you, just say something like, "Wow, thats old." Still won't stop? Um, why do you hang out with her again?
Some situations (especially with girls) call for a full-on confrontation. Not this. Its too stupid. Just be mellow and laid back when people try to do this crap. You always look cooler and far more intelligent.

Peace...

Shade

Rating: 5

Thank you VERY! much i will definetly have to try that!

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Hi, I'm Shade. I'm an artist, living in sin in a small town, hopping from job to job, and recieving no support from my family. I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder when I was 18. I've suffered through many, many, many bouts of depression, panic attacks and just plain fun ole' anxiety. Since I left my Mom's house years ago, I've lived a lot of places and met a lot of strange, horrible, and beautiful individuals. I've learned a lot about people in general and I'd have to say I'm a good judge of character.
As mentioned earlier, I'm "the artist currently known as starving". I do some oil and watercolor, but mostly acrylic painting, also some clay and metal sculpture. I appreciate all kinds of art and love to talk about it. I like to read, mostly twisted, weird fiction or memoirs about drugs and the fellow insane. I love all types of music, mostly rock, and doing anything outdoors, all my animals, horror movies, and mexican food...I drive an old, crappy, loud car that embarasses me and I just left my job at the art gallery, so as of right now, I am unemployed, livin' off my man.