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I am 23 years old, I have 4 kids, and have been through everything you could possibly think of. Ask and I shall tell. You may not like everything I say, but the truth hurts and if you take what I say into consideration you might find that it can help you even if you alter it some.

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Hi everyone, I'd like to hear your perspective(this question is especially for girls but guys are welcome to answer too). My problem is that I feel disgustingly and frighteningly ugly. My own reflection upsets me when I look in the mirror, and I find the idea of sex really scary. I've tried it a couple of times, but the guys I've been with have been really greedy and impatient and made me feel even uglier. They kept on going on about how pretty other girls were, and I think they just wanted me because I'm so insecure. Has anyone else been through this , and come out all right the other end(e.g. in a happy relationship, or just happier with themselves). Some days I don't even want to leave the house, I feel I look so bad.
Thanks in advance(22/f BTW).

Hey! I know exactly how you feel. I don't look at myself like that anymore. I think that everyone looks down at themselves every once in a while. I will tell you what I did as a young adult and then you can decide if you want to try it. First of all, you have to quit putting yourself down. Beauty is only skin deep. In this situation you are your own enemy. Do this one thing every morning and every night. Walk by a mirror, and no matter how much you want to say something bad, tell yourself something nice and don't think about it. Take a day off of work, go get your nails done, get a fresh hair style, and if you got the money, go try a new wardrobe. Sometimes people can get stuck in a way of life that they are not happy with and if you change it then you can possibly change the perception of yourself. Boost your own ego cause sweetie that is one thing we don't need a man for, a man is just a plus.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much.
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