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Hey I'm just an average girl who wants to give people advice to help them! You can rate me 1-5 (5 being the best) and tell me what you think of my advice column and give feedback but dont be rude or anything, so I hope my advice helps =)!
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im 15/f and i've got a really wierd problem. First of all, don't call me an emo or any of that nonsense or i will give you a 1, i am most definantly not.
so when my dad screams at me (about once or twice a day) he usually yells pretty bad, verbally abusing me, it hurts. so ever since i was younger instead of cry or let out my pain, because if i cried he would get even madder at me, i would pinch myself very hard or scratch myself secretly with my hands behind my back or so. i was about 7 when i started this. now this year it has gotten worse, i am getting screamed at for nothing and it has been worse then ever. i started scratching myself until i bleed. not until the skin is red, until blood is dripping. now i have 3 scars on my wrist and too many to count on my waist. i never thought i was a cutter b/c i didn't go cry and slice myself with a blade, i don't think i could ever do that. but i went bathing suit shopping with my friends and they saw the scars, and they were horrified. they had no idea what it was from, i didnt really know they were so noticable but they def. are. i am really happy all the time at school, a cheerleader vb player, a prep and every1 sees me as happy and hyper. i do cry sometimes, so im not like repressing everything. and im not emo, i don't self loath or anything. so why do i do this? make myself burn, sting, and drip blood? i don't know how to stop, i tried to rubber band and it doesn't work. i cnt seek professional help my dad will never allow it. please somebody help. I RATE 5'S FOR REAL ANSWERS
Questions like this I would hate to give the wrong answer too because I haven't been there.
If it was any other habbit I would tell you to pinch yourself whenever you felt like doing it but this isnt going to work here. So maybe you could do it opposite.
You have control over yourself. No one makes you hurt yourself. Whenever you go to do it you just have to tell yourself not to. Don't do it no matter what happens. Maybe watch some TV or do homework to get your mind off of it.
For the scars, you could try some scar medicine at a drug store.
Also, what your dad is doing is a big deal. Instead of professional help you can talk to your shcool guidance counsler if you have one or another trusted adult.
That's really all I could do but I hope it helped =)
(Rating: 5) everybody is telling me differant methods like shredding paper and writing poetry when i am already involved in expressing my feelings in writing and such, it was no help. but you actually gave me a reason to say no, not to let other's control me, i was giving into them. and the advice to get rid of the scars was reall really helpful especially when summer is coming up. thank you, it was the best advice i recieved.