I am a Minister / Prophetess , Spiritual Advisor & Christian Counselor . My Advice Column is based on Relationships , Christian issues, Youth / Teen issues , World News and as the Founder of a prison ministry I give advice to families , spouses and friends of the incarcerated using biblical principals as the foundation to provide a Word of Wisdom , a Word of Knowledge, a Word of Prophesy
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 months. Before we started going out, we were really great friends. He was my best friend. And I have a STD, HIV actually. I got it from birth because my mother had to get a blood transplant and back in 1986 they didnt check blood for HIV and such, we've been talking about being intimate with eachother. I am 15 and I need to tell him before we have sex. I need help on the following things:
1.) How to tell him: What should I say? Should I have my sister whos like my best friend be there with us?
2.) When should I tell him?
3.) How do I handle the thoughts of being rejected and trusting him?
He is my best friend and I trust him and I talked to him and have told him that I have something I'd like to discuss with him and I made him guess on what it was and he said "is it a genetically passed STD?" and I did not say anything.
I'm scared that he will tell someone. He's very trusting but I dont know, He would be the only person I told besides one person and the only boyfriend I've told. Please help.
Comfort my thoughts on this so im not such a worried reck
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Because I am a Minister first It's my position to advice you to focus on your schooling , continue to follow your Physicians instructions that has been provided to keep this disease under control and continue to enjoy friends , however at 15 you do not need to be talking about having sex with any body .
If you refuse to take my advice from above, then if you cherish your friendship with your friend, you would tell him that you have this condition, not telling him would be a disaster; if you're really his friend you would give him the option to choose oneway or another
I know that it's not your fault that you inherit this condition but you can not sacrifice his health because this has happen and it would be selfish by all measure to hid this from him because you fear rejection, the wises thing for you to do is to tell him; and if you need support from your sister then ask her to be there , I'm sure she'll honor your request .
I will pray that God gives you a miracle
God Bless You ~
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Thank you but I told him and he completely is supportive and loving and very caring about me being ontop of my meds and such
thank you though
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