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I had been with mah ex for about 7 months. Yeah, i know it doesn't seem like alot but it was long distance because he moved like across the freaking U.S.A. Well, he broke up with me because he SAID he met some other girl at tha mall. My friend told me he was going out with my other friend who didn't leave near him either. I was so pissed of that it had to be my good friend. Anyway, the only way i keep in touch with him is over the internet or sometimes phone. Before he broke up with me, we lost weren't in touch with each other because my internet broke && i forgot his number... i don`t know why he didn`t call me.. My point ;; i miss him so much && i can't get over him. I cry over him all the time && he never talks to me anymore.. last thing he said to me was i love u. wtf.. what do you think i should do? Should i tell him how i feel, bitch at him, or never talk to him again?... =[ please help. (link)
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Well, he was going out with you for 7 months, met a girl at the mall and broke up with you. Ahem... Pardon me but WTF??!!
I know how you feel. Been there, done that. My ex left me for my best friend. Very pissing off and i was very angry. And you have all the right to be angry.
But i believe everything happens for a reason. No matter how good or bad a relationship turns out, both party is responsible. Don't know if you'll agree, but i believe in looking for the cause. And i don't mean the fact that he found another girl.
Yes, i still like the guy a lot and after being angry for some time, i started thinking if it was really all his fault that our relationship ended. I figured it was only fair to see it rationally.
Yes, it is easy to see it as he ended the relationship when he met a girl at the mall. But look at it this way, it might be the easiest way for him to tell you and let go of the relationship. Or he could be just a jerk to play you out like that. You'll have to find out. Talk to him once you've gotten over the break up.
As for yourself, look back and rationally see what happened during the relationship. Sometimes we make mistakes without knowing them. And it is definitely not the guys fault if he didn't tell you what was wrong. Most guys just don't want to hurt you by saying, "Hey, you did something wrong. I don't like it."
Get an objective view of everything. It'll be easier to get over things when you know what really happened.
I think the both of you still love each other. Sometimes it is better off for two people to be the best of friends and not a couple.
In the end, if all turns out well, you'll both gain a friendship and probably make it stronger because you've understood each other more. Try to forgive and not resent.
I am sure you are still young. Whatever the reasons that ended this relationship, take it as a stepping stone and learn from this experience.
I know this might be too much to absorb or too complicated to think about. Just take it one step at a time. There IS no easy way to a relationship problem.
Good luck!
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