Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
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Me and my boyfriend are going through really hard times right now. He keeps telling me how he's too busy to talk or too tired to even figure things out. And I feel like I've just been the one to deal with his bad moods lately. Last night I was explaining to him how hurt I was about the fact that I was crying and all he could talk about was how tired he was about it. He just said that he just can't deal with all of this, so I told him that he doesn't have to deal with me anymore and we hung up. I'm always the one to come back to him after a fight. So, this time I'm letting him make the move. He's called twice tonight and I didn't answer because I just think he needs more room.
So my questions are: If he really cares about me, will he still keep calling to prove that he does want this to work?
How will I know that he really does want this to work?
Should I give him time? because I really don't want to be hurt anymore by the fact that he doesn't want to talk lately.
I need some advice, I will rate to let you know what I think (link)
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If you really want to be with him, don't ignore him for too long. Guys can only handle so much at one time.... when you are sad or hurt you want to share that with him because he cares about you. Just keep in mind that guys only want to hear this stuff once. Girls can talk the stuff out from every angle for days. Talk to your girlfriends on the really heavy stuff and try and leave him out of it. He does care, but doesn't want to go over and over it. Good luck :)
ps. I've been told I tend to harp on things... now I say it once, clearly and then bite my tongue. Us girls can't help it! we love to cover every single aspect and possibility of a problem. You're doing just fine!
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Rating: 4
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What really stands out in your advice was when you said that guys only want to hear this stuff once. I think that I should pay attention to that because I tend to go on in a confrontation. Thank you.
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