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I'm not going to sugarcoat anything for you. I'm going to give you advice that lets you know the reality of the situation. I'll make sure you know everything, the good and the bad. I'm here to target the reality, not the moral. I don't care about the "right" thing to do. I care about the "best" thing to do. Send me a question, and face the reality.
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I have a boyfriend BUT the thing is that I am not allowed to have one. I don't know how long my relationship will last before my mom and dad find out...but I really like the guy. If I tell them I have a bf they will freak out...I really don't know what to do! PLEASE help!
(14/f)
there are two choices. the black and the white.
Tell them
Don't tell them.
And the safer choice would be to tell them, but personally i wouldn't want to tell my parents if i was in a jam like this,now matter how morally right it is. so your best bet is to find your parents weak spot.
Find what will make them really see you as mature. And keep pushing and pushing at it. Like a good debate. Also find out WHY they don't want you to have a boyfriend. make sure your boyfriend knows about your situation. so if it comes to the point where you have to convince them that he isn't some sort of rapist, he knows what they're looking for.
But even so, it's pretty awkward telling your parents that you went against their wishes. so here's my realist advice of the day. DON'T TELL THEM UNLESS YOU HAVE TO. try to find a way to make them let you have a boyfriend, before telling them you have a boyfriend. If you really can't convince them to let you, then perhaps it's time they met him.
if you have him around enough (make sure to say he's just a friend) they'll get used to him and trust him. so when you finally convince them to let you date, he'll be their first choice. also, that way it won't be strange if they see you around him. you could always say you were just hanging with your friends.
but of course, if you want some advice from a parental type morally obsessed person, i'll just say you can tell them and hope for the best, but i would go for the solution before. mostly because i would never be able to bring myself to tell my parents that.
(Rating: 5) thanks that helped a lot :]