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Well me and my two best friends just to let you know how close we are: we are like crazy and we are always together, i mean i love hanging out with them and everything. Out of our class we are definately the prettiest and most fun to be around. People throughout our school know us as the BIG not cause we are big but because of our initials. I mean we agree on the same guys and everything i swear we are related but we arent. So here is the problem: We went to an FFA conventionand we were all totally looking for guys i mean what else would we be doing. But see Lindsey is the only one that has a cell phone so we always use her number and well of course they all like Lindsey right away because they got HER phone number but then if they are hott we like all fall in love with them but like i am usually the one who doesnt really care. And well this time the guy is calling me all the time and i think i am starting to like him but i dont want to tell my best friends about it because who knows what would happen. i mean i want to tell them but they are always saying no he likes me and they are fighting over who they likes between them and they act like just because i never argue i dont like him but secretly i do and i think he likes me too. but what i want to know is should i tell them that i like them and hope that they support me or should i let them find out on their own. but i would feel really bad about not telling them everything because we always say everything that happens and i dont want it to seem like i am lying to them! help? and if it matters i really really like this guy

whew.

the obviously "right" thing to do would be to tell them.

But then why would you be on this site? So i'm going to give you some advice from a realist. Advice that may not be the "right" thing.

You know you'll have to eventrually tell them. But wait for when they're currently obsessed with another guy.

Or tell them about the guy's relationship with you. not about the guy. don't say how gorgeous or sweet or wonderful he is. don't make him seem appealing. make him seem taken.

and if they truly are your friends, they should easily see how much you like him. if that doesn't work, they should at least see that he already likes you.

personally i think the second choice i gave you is better. coming clean will relieve you of much guilt, but talking about relationship first makes sure they don't fall in love with the guy before they find out you like him too.

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(Rating: 5) WOW thanks a bunch that was totally what i needed!!
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