There's a lot that I think qualifies me to help people and give good advice.
Firstly, I'm bi polar and I live with that every day. I also have arthritis and IBS.
I am a young parent, and polyamorous.
I have complex relationships, and I am an emotional person.
I can give rational advice to other people because I have learned from my mistakes. I've had a plethora of bad relationships, and it's taken me years to find people who are good for me.
I have, always have had, and probably always will have body image issues. I am multi pierced and tattooed, and fascinated by body modification. I am happy with anything that anyone does to express themselves, provided it is safe and ethical.
I believe a well lived life is one that is happy, regardless of money and status.
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Location: Portsmouth, England
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Age: 22
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Member Since: February 21, 2006
Answers: 34
Last Update: May 2, 2006
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14/f
Okay, here's my problem. You see, I really like guys, I really do. I go on dates with them, have crushes on them, they are the ones I want to have a relationship and all that.
But recently I have felt something new. You see I have my friend friend, let's call her Katie. Katie and I are inseperable, always going places together, hanging out whatever. I enjoy being around her so much. I've always felt just fine around her, until about three months ago.
I don't know what happened but soon I felt like I always needed to impress her, look pretty in front of her, and I saw how beautiful she is. I swear she is the most gorgeous person I know! And when she comes over now I just want to be close to her and hug her and touch her. I mean I caught myself starring at her chest the other day and having some daydream that she was kissing me! I don't know what's going on!
Like last night she spent the night at my house, and we sleep in the same bed. Normally it's a double bed, but since I'm rearanging my room it got reduced to a twin. So we srunched together close and I felt so guilty because I enjoyed her body pressed up against mine. And while we were talking all I wanted to do was just lean in and kiss her. It's so weird! And half the time I just want to hold her and know that she is mine and she like me as more than a friend.
But the thing I don't get is that all my guy friends say that they could see us together as lesbiens and i always brush it off because I like guys but her and I always play around kiss each other on the cheek and spoon (the sleeping poission) while we're sleeping, and strattle each other when we're play fighting, just being silly. And some days she says "Sometimes I swear I am a lesbian." and she says it in a joking way, but does she mean it as a joke? I just want her so bad, she's like my other half.
So am I bi? Can you just someday wake up and feel sexual towards someone of the same sex? And if so, if I am bi, how do I tell her? Because she knows me so well and she'll figure it out soon. So what do I say to her? Do I ever tell her that I like her in that way? Thanks for any advice you can give me. I rate high. (link)
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Sexuality can change at any time. Our brain chemistry and socio-cultural influences are continously evolving. So sexual feelings can change too, and often.
Let yourself explore these feelings, and don't feel ashamed of them. At 14, you are far too young to label yourself. You sound lucky to be blessed with liberal and understanding friends. Open up to your closer friends about your feelings. Never let anyone make you feel ashamed of your sexual feelings.
Be sensible and careful, but enjoy yourself too!
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Rating: 5
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Thank you so much for the feedback!
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