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About me:
I have worked in social services (nonprofits) for over two decades. At this point, there is little I've not heard, and therefore, I am able to give pretty grounded advice.
I like to write, and I'm currently working on my first novel. I created a 5-week workshop series for midlife women; and, I also have a midlife advice column in a small SF Bay Area paper.
Feel free to ask me whatever is on your mind &/or in your heart. I'm here, just ask!
I wish you well,
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Location: Berkeley, CA
Occupation: Social Worker, Fiction Writer & Poet, Workshop Leader
Member Since: April 5, 2006
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Hi! Well I always give advice on here, but I figured why not get some for a change! Anyway, so there is this guy that goes to my college, and lately it has been obvious that he likes me. I was never interested in him, but now that he has started showing interest, I find myself always reading his away messages, IMing and texting him, calling him on the weekends on hang out... basically all that stuff that people normally do when they like someone. He is a really cool guy and I like hanging out with him and being around him, but I don't want to fool myself into thinking that I like him if I don't! Basically, do you think that I have started to like him, or do you think I am just flirting with him because I like getting the attention from him? I can't tell the difference between the 2 in this situation, so I was just wondering what you all think!! Thanks! :)
Dear Do I Reallly Like Him,
It sounds like you need to have an honest heart to heart with yourself! After all, how will you know how you feel unless you get to know him better?
This belief that we either like or dislike someone without really knowing them is a judgement based on immediate attraction. Now, not that this is bad, but it is limited and lacking in emotional depth. Perhaps, by making contact with him you are giving yourself a chance to know him better and there is nothing wrong with that!
Why not bring up the subject and flat out tell him you're open to having him as a friend, and see where it goes from there. Be clear about your intentions, so that things don't get messy. Who knows, he might be a really great guy, but you'll never know that unless you get to know him better!
Either way, as a good friend or a bf, you deserve only the best!
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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thanks!! :)
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