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I am 21 yrs old and have been dating this guy for 3&1/2 yrs now (started my senior year of highschool) and I love him very much, but for the last year or so Ive gotten to the point where I just don't know if I can see us together forever anymore (like all girls dream) and am wondering if I should stay or go. We have been getting into alot more fights, way more easily than before and most of them are due to the fact that he is obsessed with video games and puts them ahead of hanging out with me all the time. Lately, hes gotten into this new game that has quests with alot of people on certain days of the weeks; scheduled quests. And he decides to not hang out with me and play instead even though its a friday night which is one of my nights off (no college the next day or work). We rarely see each other the way it is this semester due to classes and work and homework that this is ruining my time with him and it bugs me how he doesn't care. Even when we do hang out, when I come over to his house I have to get him off his game and its hard work. I just don't feel like a priority anymore, and because of this I get angry easier and then make him mad and we get into fights. He thinks I nag on him too much and I think he doesn't prioritize me enough. I love him sooo much, hes very honest and true to me, but I'm to the point where I'm jealous of a game?! This just doesn't feel right. The only other thing (other than his good points) stopping me from breaking it off with him is the fact that we have a class together and i don't want to have this stuff affect my grades and I am very 'addicted' to him (i love him soo much and dont know how to live without him anymore). Should i stay With him? Should i break it off? If so, when? Thanks for any advice you can give me.
i think that you need to jus talk it over with him, you dont have to give him a ultamadum but tell him he needs to make some sort of unofficial decision and figure out whether a great girl is more important that a fiction game! through this question you need to decide whether he is worth your time...and if it doesnt work out then dont sweat it, it wasnt meant to be. comment bac if you need more advice and tell me how it goes.
ther for ya,
kimberly
(Rating: 4) yea..i feel like we've had many discussions about it..many fights..and i know he knows that it pisses me off to all extents..its to the point where i wont come over if i know hes on a game..i wont until he says hes off or free..But yea..i dont know what to do..It seems like lately we've been looking into eachothers flaws more..like more tense and easily maddened if you know what i mean..everything the other one does gets on our nerves..unless we're 'havin fun' then we're fine..god it sucks..its been sooo long..i just dont know how id make it with good grades if i ended it now..and on the other hand if i didnt and i waited i would put myself thru emotions that way too..