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Q: I'm 16 and I’ve liked this guy for four months. We've been pretty good friends this year, and I got to know him well. I asked him to the school dance where girls ask guys, and we went together as friends. However, we both had a blast, and he asked me out last Thursday. Honestly, I was completely shocked, and I worried that he asked me without really thinking it through. Over the weekend, neither of us had time to see each other, and I was convinced that he was going to break up with me. On Sunday, the call came, and we talked about how different we were (I’m into my horses and country music while he spends his weekends at hard rock concerts, as an example), and how weird it felt to be dating because we were such good friends. It was obvious to both of us that there was no way for this to work out, and we broke up. He told me that he had liked me for a really long time and still did a lot. It’s really upsetting to me that we like each other, but that it’s not enough. You know? How can I get past this? I’m still completely crazy about him and he acts like he doesn't have a care in the world (if he is doing so well, I’m happy for him, really). But how do I move on?

Honestly, I really think that it is going to take time to get over him. Make sure you ahve all your friends support and understand your problem throuhgly so then they can try and comfort you when you are in a rough patch. Until then i think you should write down all your feelings about him, your bad feelings, like reasons why you broke up, embrace them, aknoledge their exsitence but don't get cauhgt up in the fact that your not together anymore and in what if's... Then tkae the box and put it far far away. FAR like really far!! yor thoughts about him will be cast away in the box.