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Hi! I'm Linda. I would love to try to help you with advice about love and life. I can also try to help with Health: Mental issues in particular.

However, you can ask me anything. I believe in the value of honesty and I will do my best to be ethical, fair and genuine. xoxoxoxo

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Ok i'm 14/f and i have this bf who is 15 and we have been together for like ever. like 1 year and months but i know i need to break if off because he is the main source of my sadness and why i am always getting introuble. i can't though, its way to hard for. I really wish he would to me, so that i didn't have to do it, but that would probaly make me more upset and my mind would be so mad at myself. but i KNOW i have to, any idea's of how to make up my mind or know for sure if were meant to be truly? i love him so much and he understands me and can always make me laugh ectc. but when he's unahppy, i can never seem to make him happy, so he makes me unahppy.this is like alll the time. i hate it, but i can't ditch him for making me unhappy and depressed, can i? please help me out with sorting this out and everything, write me and i will write back with more information on the situation if you need more info. i just need some other opinons on this, because all my friends say to end it and no advice on the matter. thank lots

Dear Ireallyneed,
At the age of 14, being with your boyfriend for over one year is a pretty long relationship. I understand that it is very difficult to break off a long relationship, however, it sounds like this relationship is bringing you down...swiftly. You are at a crossroads right now and you have a choice to make. You have options. There are a lot of things you like/love about your boyfriend, but I believe that you have been thinking about this for quite some time. The only problem with that is that it just creates more stress. What you need to do is break it off with him now, in a way that it is definitely over and he understands that. If he asks for explanations, tell him that the relationship is not working out well for either one of you and you need to have some time to find out what makes you happy again. That's it. It's the truth and you do not need to offer any other explanations. Do not badmouth him to others, and if they ask the reason, tell them that it was a mutual decision and you have no hard feelings towards him...(even if you do...it will make you look gracious and classy) If he tries to engage you in an argument, it takes two to fight, please remember that. You don't have to fight with him. If you are unhappy and sad and getting into trouble, doing things that make you feel bad about yourself, please, just let him go. You'll feel hurt for a little while and maybe a little lonely, but in the long run (and you'll be surprised how quickly you'll heal without a bad influence in your life) you'll find happiness quickly. And perhaps you'll learn more about yourself and what you will accept and what you will expect in a relationship. Good luck! Linda

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