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So I have this good guy friend. We dont really hang out outside of school, but we talk all the time in school when we can. Hes in my band class, so we have a few minutes before and after together. He always hugs me, and its like a more than friends hug. He always plays with my hair, tells me I smell good, wants to talk on the phone with me, teases me playfully, etc. He even makes me cute little cards that say things like "if I was in a room with 11 roses and you, I'd be among the 12 most beautiful things in the world" But hes always been a sweetheart. Everyone else notices. They tease us about being married and saying we would be the cutest couple ever. Hes kissed me on the cheek a couple times. But we've always been just friends, neither of us has brought up the subject of being more. well hes treated me this way forever, and I always hear that he likes me. Well the other day, after band, he came and hugged me as usual and was like "what did you do this weekend" (he was still holding me) and I said "it was loooong" he said "Oh really? I spent most of it at my girlfriends house so it went pretty fast for me"

I was shocked. He never told me or stopped treating me the way he does. He still acts like hes in love with me. I dont know whats up. My friend said she thinks hes had a gf for awhile..like a month at least. But thats not for sure, shes wrong a lot. Well I dont know if he honestly thinks of me as just a friend (It sure doesnt seem like it) or if hes doing it to make me jealous (because He seemed like he wanted me to know, the way he said it) because if he is, its definitely working..what do yall think? Thanks in advance!!!!

Here are two possible scenarios for you:

1) He's incredibly shy and wants to ask you out, but is unsure if you like him. Consequently, he might've invented a girlfriend that he can casually mention in order to gauge your reaction. If you appear non-chalant, he'll probably be disappointed (i.e. you don't care either way). If you appear visibly distraught, even for a split second, it might show him that you *do* have an interest, in which case this "girlfriend" of his will make a quick exit sometime in the near future.


2) He's an indecisive clod who's doing his girlfriend a great disservice by flirting around with other girls. If this is the case, you can most certainly live your life without him. Imagine yourself in the position as his girlfriend with him wandering around school touching and making googly eyes at somebody *other* than you.


Prod around gently for more information. Ask who this girlfriend is in a playful manner. Tease him around until he tells you. If the girl in question is real, then consider Point II above. If he gives indications that he's lying about it then consider Point I, but also consider the fact that he lied to you. It's not a BIG lie and you might even say that it was necessary from his point of view, but it was still a lie. Act accordingly.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks a ton, that was really good advice.
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