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Hey. :]
Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
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this guy is abusive, and sounds potentially very dangerous, confronting him with a few guy friends is the 1st step, you dont need to be nasty, just firm and to the point,if things escalate,(sounds like they might) you dont want him to be able to say you started anything. with your friends, as both protectors, and witnesses, tell gordon clearly not to touch you or shannon again, in any way shape or form. tell him its uncomfortable when he touches you and that his attentions are not welcome,to either you or shannon.if and when he attacks either of you again, you must follow through with your witnesses in tow, tell your principal, and your parents.your witnesses must be willing to tell the prinipal or anyone else it concerns that they saw and heard you tell him to stop.if his abuse persist, your's and or shannons parents, may need to take legal action.dont allow this guy to hit or suggestivly touch either of you without telling someone.good luck!
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Rating: 5
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Thanks a lot for your advice. It's definately one of the best answers I've received. I am escalating things, and taking it slow -- I approached him the other day about this & just told him that it was really inappropriate & he needs to stop. He hasn't bothered me since, but he still bothers my friend. I'm thinking about talking to him again just because obviously the first time he didn't understand anything I said! Thanks a lot! :)
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