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Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!

Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.

I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.

At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.

What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.

It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much!

my sister went through the same thing. eventually my sister decided to just tell her friend that she knew she was going through a hard time & if she wanted to talk about it, she was there for her. her friend still didn't love to talk about it, but sometimes my sister would ask a question. if your friend gets mad or upset, just explain to her you were just making sure she was okay, and that you care about her alot. i know its tough, but good luck!

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