Just your average nice girl next door. Married the love of my life at 24, widowed at 29.
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Well I'm 16 turning 17 in less than two weeks. I had been dating this guy for almost 4 months, and our anniversary was coming up in less than a week. I had already made plans with him and his family for Thanksgiving and me and him were doing amazingly well. Then about one week and a half before prom he started blowing me off to hang with his friends all the time, and he kept lying to me. I was afraid he might be cheating and because of the immature way he was acting we started fighting alot. Then came prom night. We were dancing, laughing, having a good time, and he kept telling me how much he loved me. Then after prom he told me to go straight home because he was staying at his "friend's" house, whom had a 16 year old slut of a sister, and she kept eyeing my bf at prom, and not paying attention to her date at all. Well I didn't want him to go, because he promised to hang out with me after prom, but I had to go so I did. All that night I cried myself to sleep and when I woke up he finally called me. I came over and he was upstairs on his bed crying. I came over and asked what was wrong and he said he was "just thinking". Finally he spit it out. He said he needed space and wanted to take a break because his schooling was bad, us fighting was stressing him out, and the fact that I wouldn't let go of some of the mistakes he made in the past. I have this awful feeling he cheated and it hurts so bad to think that he would do that. His whole family is pissed at him because of this and I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying because I feel so betrayed and hurt. I'm afraid that if he comes crying back to me that I will take him back. It's so hard to see myself without him and actually feel happy, because we hung out so much, and I got so close to him and his family. He's like no other bf I have ever had, and it hurts so bad to let him go, even though I know I have to and it will be better in the end. Can someone please tell me anyway that I can stay strong, stop crying, and get over this guy, because I cannot take all the pain he has out me through, and I know I deserve better. I feel that he is stringing me along and it hurts so bad to feel like that. Someone help please. (link)
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Hi there - sorry you had to see the 'proof' but so glad that you have the heart and self-esteem to walk away. Too many times women think the rotten guy is the 'only' one and do or say anything to keep them. Keep your head held high because no matter what, no one can say you were a bad person in this ever. If you went back to him he would continue to treat you shamefully and since you walked away from the situation he WILL think of you and that you were always a class act and he shouldn't have treated you that way. hugs to you!
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Thanks for the advice. I've been able to stop crying and get over him. And I found out he did cheat on me. When I came over to drop off his stuff, his borther showed me pics he took that night of prom after I went home. And they were with him and her all over eachother. After seeing that I stopped getting so upset and focussed on my friends, family, and guys that support me. Everyone has been there for me through this and it is still going to be hard not to want to punch her and him in the face when I see them together. But karma will come back to him, so I have no worries. It was wrong what he did to me, and even if he doesn't act like he regrets it right now, I know he will miss me someday and I won't be there for him. It will just take time to get over what he did.
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