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As indicated by the subject of this question, this is another one of those 'omg am i in love? or is it lust? or is it... something my mind made up to mock me?" type questions. So please bear with me. this is going to be a LONG question or series of questions. If you don't believe me go ahead and scroll down and look.
My first question would be to the guys: Do you guys enjoy flirting with a girl before making any type of move? It seems to me that guys find it fun to seem interested in a girl then totally shoot her down. Or something to that effect. Do guys believe in real honest-to-goodness true love? Or do you guys just see flings [right word?] as the right thing and see how many girlfriends you can get and then dump before you graduate high school/college? Right now, I would to state that no, I am not biased in seeing guys as heart-breakers and have no feelings. I'm just wondering, since I have no idea what a guy's notion of flirting is. Do guys believe in love at first sight or true love? Or is it that the only love left in this world is more similar to lust? Do you guys have high standards in what you expect in the 'perfect' girl?
Girls. Do any of you girls find yourselves falling in love with every single guy that comes along and makes an impact or small dent in your life? Do you find yourself daydreaming about the cute guy you've never talked to before or one of your new guy friends falling in love with you? Do you believe that out there, somewhere, there is a perfect guy? Do you believe that you'll meet him before you graduate high school or after? before you graduate college or after? I'm the type of person who wants a soul mate before graduating high school. High standard but what can I say? Almost every girl dreams of finding the perfect one before too long. Is it wrong to have too many high standards for what you want in a guy?
Now this section is to either gender. How do you know if you're truly 'in love' and not lusting? People probably have asked this question many times before, but I'm still curious. I've fallen in and out of love faster than you can say "omgimthinkimlove~". I can't really trust my feelings so saying things like "just trust your heart" does not bode well with me. What's the difference between love and lust as in how do you know when you feeling lust instead of love? Can you trust yourself to truly to be 'heads over heels' in love? Can your deep feelings of love be a fabrication of your mind when it senses that you're really lonely? Define true love, give me how you feel when you believe you're truly in love.
Anyone who bothers to read this entire question passage and cares to think deeply about the questions i've asked and answers thoughtfully would definitely get a 5. I would be really surprised if more than three people answer more than three questions or bother to answer at all. Answer more than two questions at least please. If you read this far, congratulations you get a virtual cookie and probably a 5 if you answer all the above questions [depending on if you're a girl or guy] or more than three. Idiots who have no idea what they're saying and are trying to sound philosophical will have a 1 branded on their foreheads or something. (link)
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realy guys seem to have that reputation of flirting and then breaking hearts straight after huh? well i can almost guarantee that most guys will not do this on purpose. Of course everybody loves flirting but I guess the whole point of flirting is to test how compatible you are with that person, you can never really know how compatible you are with that person until you put them to the test ie. flirting.
Of course a lot of the time it turns out that the person isn't quite what you had in mind, and then interest would naturally drop. nothing personal against the girl, but it just didn't seem to click I guess. but i guess the moral of the story is enjoy the flirting regardless.
alright youre next question, is it lust or love? I always wondered about this too, and I came to a good test. What you do is ask youself: "would you feel earth shattering sadness if that person was to disappear forever?"
If the answer is Yes, then you know its true love because something really special would have ripped away from you.
If the answer is No, then even though they may have been the hottest person around they were not important for you. I can say that about Jessica Alba, damn thats one fine chick, however if she was to disappear forever I can safely say I wouldn't give it a second though. Defintely Lust.
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Rating: 5
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You're a guy right? lol, I'm just checking since it seems implied from your answer. Unfortunately, I have some issues with figuring out my own emotions, so your test of love or lust might not work for me. If you have AIM, IM me some time, I might have some more questions, haha. greyuseen.
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