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As indicated by the subject of this question, this is another one of those 'omg am i in love? or is it lust? or is it... something my mind made up to mock me?" type questions. So please bear with me. this is going to be a LONG question or series of questions. If you don't believe me go ahead and scroll down and look.
My first question would be to the guys: Do you guys enjoy flirting with a girl before making any type of move? It seems to me that guys find it fun to seem interested in a girl then totally shoot her down. Or something to that effect. Do guys believe in real honest-to-goodness true love? Or do you guys just see flings [right word?] as the right thing and see how many girlfriends you can get and then dump before you graduate high school/college? Right now, I would to state that no, I am not biased in seeing guys as heart-breakers and have no feelings. I'm just wondering, since I have no idea what a guy's notion of flirting is. Do guys believe in love at first sight or true love? Or is it that the only love left in this world is more similar to lust? Do you guys have high standards in what you expect in the 'perfect' girl?
Girls. Do any of you girls find yourselves falling in love with every single guy that comes along and makes an impact or small dent in your life? Do you find yourself daydreaming about the cute guy you've never talked to before or one of your new guy friends falling in love with you? Do you believe that out there, somewhere, there is a perfect guy? Do you believe that you'll meet him before you graduate high school or after? before you graduate college or after? I'm the type of person who wants a soul mate before graduating high school. High standard but what can I say? Almost every girl dreams of finding the perfect one before too long. Is it wrong to have too many high standards for what you want in a guy?
Now this section is to either gender. How do you know if you're truly 'in love' and not lusting? People probably have asked this question many times before, but I'm still curious. I've fallen in and out of love faster than you can say "omgimthinkimlove~". I can't really trust my feelings so saying things like "just trust your heart" does not bode well with me. What's the difference between love and lust as in how do you know when you feeling lust instead of love? Can you trust yourself to truly to be 'heads over heels' in love? Can your deep feelings of love be a fabrication of your mind when it senses that you're really lonely? Define true love, give me how you feel when you believe you're truly in love.
Anyone who bothers to read this entire question passage and cares to think deeply about the questions i've asked and answers thoughtfully would definitely get a 5. I would be really surprised if more than three people answer more than three questions or bother to answer at all. Answer more than two questions at least please. If you read this far, congratulations you get a virtual cookie and probably a 5 if you answer all the above questions [depending on if you're a girl or guy] or more than three. Idiots who have no idea what they're saying and are trying to sound philosophical will have a 1 branded on their foreheads or something. (link)
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Any time I see a guy that I just met or have a conversation that really makes me think. I begin to fall for them. Yes I always daydream about guys even if I don't know their names. And I will begin to think that if they look at me they think I am pretty and like me. I don't know, though I have mixed feelings all the time. Yes, I believe there is one perfect guy for every girl. Although I also believe that they are not gonna be perfect to EVERY woman's expectations but in your eyes when you are in love he seems SO perfect. I believe you will meet them after collage. Because when you are young every guy that is cute makes you turn your head. And when you are older you have had plenty of expeirence and you know what you do and don't want in a guy. I want to wait and explore my options and get to know as many guys as I can so I know I am making the right decision that will make me happy for the rest of my life.I don't realyl have a high standard. All I want is for a guy to care about me, respect me, and love me for me not my features. Yes it is every girls dream to find 'prince charming' No I don't think it is wrong but I do believe it will be VERY hard for you to find the guy like that. How do you know if you're truly 'in love' and not lusting? Hmmm this is a hard question. Love is when you want to be with someone so much you can hardly breath but lust is when you like someone but you could change when you saw another cute guy pass. I have fallen for many guys too. I am a big flirt and I know that sounds bad but I am. I mean I don't mean to be but I try to be nice and to people it looks like I am flirting. I can't really trust my feelings either and how I deal with it is to wait and see if the love lasts. Like if you 'love' someone else the next day or week you can more than likely tell it was just lust. but if it lasts atlease 4 months I say it is love. You can't trust yourself completely for everything but you learn more about yourself by listening to you heart. I know you said that don't bode with you but you may be have mixtures between what your HEAD is telling you and what your HEART is telling you. Can your deep feelings of love be a fabrication of your mind when it senses that you're really lonely?' yea they can. It is telling you that you need someone to love and you need someone to hold you. I get this feeling a lot. I think that may be the reason why I always hug everyone. True Love: That can't eat, can't sleep, reach for the stars over the fence, world series kind of love.(that is my definition of TRUE LOVE.) The real definition is..
True Love:
True love is very misunderstood, and despite the best efforts of philosophers through out the ages it still remains a mystery to most people. The definition of true love offered by Dr. Peck is worth considering, however. Basically, he explains true love as giving of yourself for the sake of the spiritual growth of other people and for your own spiritual growth.
The first thing you may notice about this definition is that it implies true love has a purpose, and that purpose revolves around personal growth. Love is not just an emotion, however intense and deep it feels. Central to this definition is the idea that through loving others we ourselves grow. Through the practice of loving we become a more loving person. Spiritual growth can thus be measured by how loving we truly are. True love of oneself is also included in this definition. To love yourself means doing what is good for your own personal and spiritual growth, even when it is uncomfortable or difficult. Loving ourselves does not mean just being nice to ourselves and satisfying all our earthly pleasures. (In reality, this is very detrimental to our spiritual growth because it makes us self-indulgent and self-centered.)
To love others takes effort, and in some cases this can be very hard work. Ideally, we should also be able to love people whom we do not particularly like or find attractive. This is not as unreasonable as it may sound, if you understand that love is not just a feeling, but it is expressed when you do something for another person that benefits their spiritual and emotional growth, which in turn helps them realize their full human potential.
When I think I am in love.. Is when all I can think about is him and that he is the best thing in the world. He can do no wrong and anything people say bad about him is NOT true and he could never do something that would hurt me or make me cry.
I hope I helped you. If you need more adivce ask me! I will try and help.
Xoxo,
TakeT_H_Achance!
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Rating: 5
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wow. I do believe your answer was one of the longest... or was it the longest? anyway, i hope you are willing to answer questions i have in the near future! -gives you huge virtual cookie-
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