Member Since: November 5, 2005
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This may seem a bit random, but I'll ask anyway.
Last year, i transferred from my school to a new school in a new district. I have been going to my old school since elementary school [it has elementary, junior high, and high school]. I spent five years with the same people in my grade, so needless to say, changing schools would seem to be a big deal. But, being the person i am, I adapt easily and made friends. However, this group of friends I made, most of them are guys. Counting them, I would say there are 6 guys and at most two girls [not including me]. While it can be a bit awkward sometimes, it really is fun; we always hang out [even in the summer], watching movies and playing football while hanging out at each others' houses. But I still feel like I'm not "really in the group", because once in a while they make plans without telling me or try to hide it from me.
Getting to the point, my question is, how do I know if I'm really 'accepted' into the group or another question is, how do i become closer to my friends [especially the guys]? Next year, they'll be graduating [the guys are ALL seniors], the girls plus me, are juniors, so I want to be able get closer with them before they and we graduate. Giving me advice such as "talk to them more" or anything like that force me to whack you or give you a low rating.
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usually when groups organise stuff there is one person who organises who to call (of course different people may organise each time). if there are times when you're not invited out then that means that there must be some particular people in the group you are not that close to, and in fact if you think about it you probably have a good guess who they are.
because everyone is graduating, this changes everything, its only the groups with really strong relationships that survive these kind of changes, so what I would do is decide who in the group you are closest to and even just hang out with JUST that person. its usually your own relationship with individuals that are important, not your relationship with the whole group
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being the type of person i am, i'll probably try to keep in touch with all of them, because they're all really cool in their own way, but thanks for the advice
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