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But then again, don't we all love our brain?
Gender: Female
Occupation: Student
Age: 21
Member Since: October 29, 2005
Answers: 21
Last Update: March 7, 2007
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I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs. We met on the internet and he was just getting out of a bad divorce. We were dating for almost 3 months and he left me. He said its not me its him and he had some things to clear out of his head. I was broken hearted but I understood. 2 weeks later we got back together and 2 weeks later he left-still confused-i still understood. 3 months passed and i missed him so and we started talking again-we got back together. He sold his house and moved in with me and my 2 children. He has also has a son. Things were very good and in April he asked me to marry him-of course i accepted. Ii was planning the weeding for 2007 and he moved it up to 2006. I was ecstatic so i was planning our wedding. There were times when we argued and yes i take blame for some of them. The last argument we had was b/c of the internet and things i found him going on. Well he kept saying it wasnt him and he did not look that stuff up-cookies did it--whatever. Well things escalated from there and one day he said he cant do this any more its not me its him,he doesnt want to be engaged or get married or be with anyone and he left. I was never engaged before so of course i will be all excited. He was married for 10 yrs and yes its scary for him,but why did he leave? The week he left he got distant from me and i knew something was wrong but i didnt think he was going to leave for a 3rd time. He moved up to his parents like 10 minutes from my house. I still talk to him and off and on he comes over. I miss him so much and ask him to come home--but he says its not that easy it was hard to leave he cant just come back.I understand that kind of but if he loves me why is he not coming back? what does he need to think about? I miss him so much but he wont tell me he misses me unless i ask-or he wont tell me he loves me-sometimes he does when i say it other times he says "I know". I am so confused and i know i need to let him go and let him be but it is so hard. What do I do?He knows i want him to come home,he knows i love him,he klnows we can move as slow as we need to we dont need to rush,but yet he wont come back. What can I do? Please help.
thank you
27yr old female (link)
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He is taking you for granted.
He'll keep on doing this until you put an end to the situation.
This guy is happy. He knows he has a woman waiting for him when he needs one, and he knows he can go back to his single status whenever he wants to.
He is manipulating you. He gives a little with a promise of giving you more. He keeps you hanging and waiting while he has fun.
Why shouldn't you let go of a guy like that?
If you can't let him go, confront him. Tell him you're tired of waiting for him to decide on what he wants. Tell you need an answer now, because you have a life to live and you don't want to wait for him all your life. The result might not please you but it will be easier for you to move on if he leaves you. If he says he loves you... make sure he's sincere.
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