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Q: My guy friend needs help. He was just on the phone with me ( cause he knows about my site and figured i could help ) and said that theres this girl that he really really likes, but this other girl that he dates ( not a relationship, just dates ) likes him, but he doesn't like her anymore. And he told me she cries to him sometimes on the phone and that she says she doesn't want to lose him and such and he doesn't want to be a jerk, but he doesn't know what to do, and I don't know how to answer. Please help.

Love,
Mel

Being honest with someone does not make you a jerk. Perhaps the girl is too sensitive and emotionally attached, perhaps he saw their relationship as "simple dating" when she saw it as "love of my life", but either way, it doesn't matter; if he isn't honest with her, it won't make her feel better eventually, and it'll make his OWN life miserable. I think in some cases one has to go with his intuition and do what feels like the right thing, for himself as well as for those concerned. I think your friend should just tell girl #2 that he's not interested, that he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, without necessarily mentioning that there "is someone else." It'll probably make things easier.

Rating: 5

thanks so much for the advice ; it really helps. I'll be sure to tell him that! =D

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