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Hello. . .19/f here with a problem...
I met this guy about 2 months ago. We've already had sex, and we act like a couple to an extent. . spending a lot of time with each other, kissing/cuddling/ect, talking on the phone for hours... He has told me that he cares for me and loves me.
He's afraid to be in a relationship, though, because his last (very serious) girlfriend cheated on him with his brother and is now pregnant with his brother's baby. He doesn't trust anyone. He has admitted to me, though, that he holds back some of his feelings for me.
Some days, he's very sweet to me and wants to be around and is very affectionate. Other days, he's kind of cold and shuts me out a little bit. Either way, he wants to hang out; it's just the way he acts around me that varies.
He has bi-polar disorder. I'm begining to think that maybe this disorder, although medicated, is making him act this way.
So these are my questions.
1. Does anyone have manic depression/bi-polar disorder? If you do, can you tell me how this disorder effects your social skills?
2. I want to be in a relationship with him, but I don't know how to help him take that extra step to trust me. He says "I love you, but i'm not in love with you. I don't think I could be in love with anyone." How can I help him stop holding back?
I'll rate you highly if you at least try to help.
Thanks. (link)
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Okay, I know how to help you here. I recently got out of a relationship with a guy that was bi-polar and yes, it does affect your social life...very much so. At the time, I didn't know that he was bi-polar, I just thought he was being an ass. But seriously, this guy loves you, and if you are really commited to him, you're going to have to "pur up with it".
He may get short with you sometimes, but really hon, he doesn't mean it. I am positive that his being bi-polar is the reason for this. So don't worry about it hun, if you really love each other as much as you do, you can work it out.
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