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Here goes:
I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me? (link)
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It sounds to me that this boy does still like you but may think that after "the incident" that you no longer like him. You need to swallow your pride and ask him straight out to be really sure. You can always test the water so to speak and maybe say Hi to him, smile at him etc see what responses you get back from him. It's all about breaking the ice and dropping your (and his) defenses a little. Be really bold and ask him out to see a film. It will hurt if he turns you down but you will know then where you stand and that it's time to move on. This may sound a little harsh but there is no point wasting your time on someone that isn't willing to do the same for you. Be happy.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you. Your answer made a lot of sense :D.
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