hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there
its not like i want to i do but its like this urge that wont go away its all i cant think about. and watching my niece doesnt help it makes me want 1 of my own more.
i know i am emotional stable and if i did get pregnant my family would help me support this child but i know its not how i was raised and there arent alot of teen pregnancies in my more upscale neighborhood but i feel like i cant live without having a child
i also do babysit and work with children (link)
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well takes this from a mom of two. i feel the same way i love kids and i wouldnt trade them for the world. but when it comes down to it sometimes i wish i would of waited a little longer before i had them. its not only about wanting a child you need to beready for a child. you cant expect yuor family to help you raise a child, if you cant say that you can do it on your own, you are not ready for one. its great when you work w/ them, babysit maybe even for a couple of days. you get to give them back though, when they are yours there is noone to give them to. also if you enjoy having a childhood, like shopping, staying out late, having nice things, well then let me tell you once you have children, most of that goes away. you have to sacrafice for them, you will always be second, you will have absolutely no needs that come first anymore once you have a child, including, food, showers, any free time, sleep, money, the list goes on and on. that is something you have to be ready for and also realise that not all kids are the same you may have been really lucky and watched some children who were little angels, or slept all night. well not normal. would you be ready for a colicy baby who keeps you up for days, or a child with anyother special need, you never know how yours will turn out, and then if there are problems, you will have to dedicate even more of yourself. i hope you seriously give all this some more thought. to have a child it is not good enough in todays world to just want one, you need to know you can handle one and are ready for one, on your own.
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thanks for your adivice. i was really looking for someone like you to help me out and talk about this and if you okay with it can you please email/im me at xsweetxpeax88@aim.com
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