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First of all, let me clear the air. Im a sexually active 20 year old, Ive never been married, and I personally see nothing wrong with premarital sex, or sex in general.
But.
I have many friends who are Christian or Catholic, and they are (in my opinion) anywhere from sexually repressed at best, to afraid of and disgusted by sex at worst.
I cant really talk to most of them about it, simply because its a very uncomfortable subject.So I pose the question to the masses. For those of you who are religious, what are your views on sex, and why?
Thought provoking answers might get my screen name for further discussion, if you like. Any answers that sound something like
"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"
or outright flames will get a 1. (link)
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As someone who is studying to be a minister, I have to answer this question a lot. First of all, I am engaged and I do have sex with my fiance. He is the only person with whom I have had sex. I do not believe sex before marriage is wrong; however, I think that indiscriminate sex is harmful (not theologically, but psychologically).
Many people site lists of sins from Scripture which include "fornication and adultery" as sins in the eyes of God. They list these as commandments against premarital sex. Other people also note the verses about one's body is a temple to God. In thinking about these passages, one could come to some different conclusions.
One's body is a gift, whether from God or nature, depending on your view of it. It is best to treat it well. This would include eating well, regular exercise, occaisional doctor visits, daily flossing, comfortable shoes...etc. Many people (many religious people even) do not come close to this. It is not is the spirit of the Law to mistreat your physical body daily, but claim it as a temple to God in only one area.
Secondly, many religious people argue against masturbation, citing the story from Genesis 38. In this story, God kills Onan for "spilling his seed on the ground" instead of impregnating his sister-in-law as the law required. Onan was not killed for using the withdrawal method, but because he did not honor the law and the commands of God. This is not a story forbidding masturbation, which is certainly safer, fun and acceptable than random sex.
Thirdly, there are many people who are caught in a divide between spirit and body. They believe time on Earth is time to be passed before being with God and all things should be done for God's glory. God's glory is set. God does not need us to do things for God, but requires of us good deeds toward our neighbor.
Sadly, love and making love is infused with our human intentions and manipulations. We want so to care for those whom we care about, but we always seem to fall slightly short.
What does all this have to do with sex? In short, I believe sex is good when it is between two consenting people (and I do have a fine line on consent) who mutually care about each and wish to grow in love together. Sadly, these relationships do not always work out, but I believe it is better to hope for that future. While I know many people who have one-night stands or random hookups or booty calls and seem to have no adverse affects, there are many others for whom this later proves to be psychologically damaging. In general, I am an advocate of sex within a committed relationship.
I hope this gives at least some interesting food for thought. Best wishes.
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Best answer Ive had so far. Its good to finally meet a Christian who knows about and is willing to think about misinterpretation of scripture.
The biggest thing I have with all that is Adultery and fornication. Fornication was translated from the word "porneia" apparently, and the actual translation of that into english is iffy.
Adultery on the other hand has always seemed to me to be about unfaithfulness.
I dont know, I have friends who are very sexually aware, but not active. They think everything from their thoughts about sex to the fact that they might masturbate is a sin. Im going to use what you've given me here and some research Ive done to try to get them in a better frame of mind.
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