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My cousin's best friend recently just died about 4 days ago. She's having a rough time because they grew up together and were extremely close. I don't know what to do, besides be there for her. It's kind of hard when she lives in Boston, though. Anyway, since she's having a rough time she got back into heavy drugs and began to cut herself, again. I'm trying to make her realize that she has to stop all this and face the fact that he's died and try to move on.. without having to cut/do drugs just to get her happy. I'm trying to get her to remind the good times they shared, but it's not working. What should I do with this problem? Any ideas?
It's very difficult to lose a close friend, it's one of the worst things a person can go through. There's usually a lot of anger, "How could X do this to me?" or, "What did I do to let X down? Why couldn't I stop it? Why wasn't it me?"
Nobody likes being told that they're wrong, even if they know they are. Griping at your cousin for your decisions probably won't make her feel any better.
However, if you could let her know that it's OKAY to be upset, that this friend wouldn't want her to ruin her life, and that you do care and she does have a lot to live for.
It takes some time to heal from things like that, but it's important to let her know doing more damage isn't going to solve anything.
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"It takes some time to heal from things like that, but it's important to let her know doing more damage isn't going to solve anything." That's what I've been telling her and she just doesn't seem to listen. She's getting mad at everyone, even her boyfriend. I just don't know what to do to help her?! Thanks for the wonderful advice though, hun. It was great. :)
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