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i'm a male, over 20, alone as hell.
i've never been able to get a girlfriend, i've tried and tried.
it seems like some crule cycle with me, meet a girl, ask her out a couple of times, start to like her and suspect she likes me too, try to be there for her and everything, try to move things up a notch, get the "you're such a good/nice/fabulous guy, i just wanna be friends" routine. Then i'll let go of how i feel as much as posible and try being "just friends", then she picks up the biggest jerk known to mankind and i get to sit across the table watching them make out (TORTURE, for those who care). then the arshole will proceed to cheat on her, she's crushed, i have to listen to all the bullshit and cheer her up, only to find her back with the butthead a week later, then a month later he'll cheat on her AGAIN...
by the third time this happens i simply fuck off, cause she's still won't go out with me and she keeps on going back to the total jerk and every month i have to be there for her.
WHAT THE FUCK, girls always tell me what a "NICE GUY" i am and the friendship crap, but why won't they go out with me.
I'm starting to accept that i'll die alone and bitter, and am starting to avoid woman totally.
I just don't know what to do, i'm really starting to lose it with woman.
I'm over 20 and i haven't even kissed a girl yet. WTF?!!!!!!!!!!!!
should i just kill myself now instead of becoming a full blown alcoholic?
should i try to like guy's more, and simply go gay?
at least i get alot of attention from gay guys trying to chat me up at bars, though im not gay. but women.......FUCK
i need advice please. (link)
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No need to swear we get you loud and clear. If it matters my friend, I have the same situation and I am seven years older than you. Does this make us losers, HELL NO. What it makes us is unconfident in the qualities we possess and not sure how to interact with women as well as we can. Both of us are good catches and no, you need not turn gay (laughter)
Quit trying to date her for one thing. She's offering you friendship. Take it. In the long run by being her confidant you learn things nobody else can teach you but a woman frustrated. Take mental notes on what not to do with women from her. You will need these later as most women do not come with a "Complete Moron's Guide To Girls, Women and Why The Act Like Their Mothers?"
That is another thing befriend the mom, see the baby pictures and never piss mom off in any fashion. She will be more than happy to tell you if she thinks you are the "nice boy" type her daughter ought to date rather than the ass behind door number one her daughter chose she will push for you and tell you what makes the daughter tick. Again, take mental note.
Next, sure the boyfriend is a dick. What else is new here? The key and crucial thing I learned the hard way is to LET HER BITCH AS MUCH AS SHE WANTS BUT SAY NOTHING. WHY? well let's just say if you say anything bad about her boyfriend or how she relates to him you are SCREWED TIMES TWO. BOTH WILL HATE YOU. Instead listen to her gripe and moan and take notes in your head on HOW NEVER TO TREAT A WOMAN 101.
It may be you never get to date her. With billions of people on the planet you and I will find the right one. It may take a while but relax. She is after all a girl and can give you pointers on how to act with a girl or get a date. Get her to fix you up with a friend of hers who is like you. It can work out. And do not be too pushy trying to make stuff happen let it unfold. Get to know people and get the courage to ask for a date too.
The NICE GUY/BROTHER/JUST A FRIEND BS LINE OF ALL TIME is so cliched. All it means is "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU NOT NOW NOT EVER YUCK AND BLANK OFF (THE LATTER WHEN YOU TRIED TOO MANY DAMN TIMES)
Dude, she's not into you so find someone who is. As for mixed signals we all send them. Understand though hair twirling can be boredom and foot tapping too and smiling if you caught her in the same direction may mean nothing either. A girl who likes you will make it known if you don't get what she is doing. Then they give up.
Bottom line the right person will come along but do not be so closed off and uptight.
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thx for ur honesty and great advice...im 26 btw
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