shyness is nice And shyness can stop you from saying all the things in life you'd like to, so if theres something you'd like to try, ask me i wont say no, how could I?
Gender: Female
Age: 26
Member Since: September 29, 2005
Answers: 14
Last Update: September 30, 2005
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So I'm a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is a wee bit older. He's 25.
We've been going out for about a month and he's a great guy to me - he buys everything (not just dinner, like he asks if there's anything I want in stores etc.), he opens doors, he always says the kindest things to me, and yes he's great in the bedroom.
But I've just been wondering lately if this is the best time for me to date someone his age. He's so perfect but it's kind of difficult when I get the weird looks from friends and classmates about dating an older guy. He hasn't met my friends yet and I don't even know if his friends know about me. The whole age thing is just kind of throwing me for a loop.
So, do you think I should keep pursuing this relationship with the chance of getting hurt or just let it go for now with such big differences?
P.S. Remember that I'm only a senior in high school, still dealing with stuff like homecoming and prom. He's already out in the working world...it's a tough choice... (link)
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First Answer:I know a lot about this subject because I'm 26 and my husband (of 4 years) is 48. However, I was 22 when we met and you may not realise it now, but there is a Huge difference between being a teenager and a young adult. When you are 25 you will realise how much you and your life has changed since you were 17. I would be suspicious of a 25 year old man who dates a 17 year old girl, I would think that there is something lacking in him that prevents him from engaging with older women, or maybe he has control issues, as in, he doesnt like being challenged and is insecure. I think it is important to experience the life that surrounds you, be a part of the social scene with your peers, you have the rest of your life to engage in 'mature' relationships.
Reply to Rating: Im sorry, I didnt mean to patronise you, I would say the difference is that when my husband and I got together I had dated many different people and had had lots of experiences like going to college in another state, living and working away from home, traveling to europe etc. When your 17 you should have fun and not grow up too fast-that's what I meant to say, sorry if I came across as being too judgemental. Best of Luck!
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I'm just kind of curious as to why you're telling me that my situation is so much different when the man you married was twice your age when you met. You guys are in different generations, not just different lifestyles...I just think it's weird that my situation is so much worse.
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