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Q: okay, I am 21 and still a virgin. I have done other stuff just not had sex yet. The thing is I was almost raped by one of my ex boyfriends and I am kind of scared of guys now, not all but some of them. I feel really pathetice because I am still a virgin and I am 21. Plus my uncle has aids and that is another reason why I am scared. I don't have a bf right now but am looking for one. When I do find one and we have sex how can I make myself less scared to have sex? Is there anything I can do to calm myself down?
any help will be great, guys and girls
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Wow! It sounds like you've been through a lot, but you're trying to get over your fears, which is good. It's hard to take the next step. There's no reason to feel ashamed for being a virgin at 21. If you think about it, you could go find a drunk guy and do it right now, but you're not. This shows that you respect yourself and have good values. Obviously you are going to be a little bit nervous because of your personal experiences, but if you decide that you want to lose your virginity, you have to throw your fears aside. You are going to become a new person, a confident, sexy person who gets what she wants. This is going to sound stupid, but stand in front of a mirror naked and look at yourself. If guys are going to love you, first you have to love yourself. Buy clothes that make you look really good (not slutty) and put yourself out there. Be aggressive, assertive, and have a good time. Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, so love every second.
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thanks so much for your advice. Yeah that's true I could find a drunk guy and do it right now which I have thought about to tell you the truth but I've never done it because I decided it wouldnt' be the best thing to do.
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Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!
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E-mail: Gender: Female Age: 14 AIM: Member Since: October 1, 2005 Answers: 49 Last Update: June 20, 2006 Visitors: 4255
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