hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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I was very younge 13 and never really under stood much or maybe i was 15 i can't remember but my grandad who is dead now tried to touch me on my private parts. and he did touch me on my vagina, and it hurt me I remember that i kicked him with my foot to get him away hard and it hurt him made a scare. I know he loved me and i loved him. I am so guilty i wish i never did it now i keep thinking about it and everything. please i know i was wrong but i don't know how to make me forget about it please help me. im using my friends account so hurry with answers. Thanx. (link)
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i have ehard this situation many times and alot of young woman say the same thing that they was their fault what has happened to them.it was not your fault wether it was your grandfather, friend boyfriend or whoever did such things to you. when someone touches a child they need help a grown man knows the diffrence between right and wrong. a child can not make a man want them, or provoke anything of that nature. i understand that you love your grandfather, and i have no doubt in my mind that he loved you as well. but that still not change the fact that what he did was wrong. the hard reality of it is you may not be the only one that he did that to. i work in the business when i deal with petafiles on a daily basis, and 9 out of 19 times they are repeat offenders. i think it would be wise to talk to a counselor about this, you are oviously in denial that anything wrong on your grandfathers part was wrong, and to blame yourself, is putting the blame in the wrong place. i know it is hard when someone you love hurts you, you would like to pretend it never happened. unfortunatly it dosent work that way which you are now finding out. if you do not fully deal with this soon it could possibly haunt and cause you to have bad relationships with men for the rest of your life. good luck to you.
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Amazing advice thank you so much. See as i got older i made him stop. He died with old age last year and he got cancer and we never new. i still feel like there was no reason for me to kick him.
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