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ok heres my problem
i had this boyfriend for a little over a year ( on and off) and i was CrAzY about him he was my first love but he cheated on me about 3 times but i found it in my heart to forgive ( b/c he really was a sweet guy) but he didnt cheat on me for a looong time but we did end up breaking up..
then i got this boyfriend( who i am with now) and he treats me like gold if i told him to do something he does it right then and there...
but i think for some reason im still in love with my ex-boyfriend and my boyfriend at the same time..
i just dont know why i would even think of having feeling for my ex when he did that to me and my boyfriend treats me like gold.
is this wrong should i still have feelings for my ex? what do i do?? (link)
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I stand by my original comments having been mailed by the person asking this question. Any rational adult will tell you the same things I did. It is not normal to identify with, want to be with, have a fantasy about a relationship with someone who is long gone out of your life or someone who hurt you by cheating.
You should get that this person is bad for you the first time not the third. If he screwed you over three times and you still do not get the fact not to date him you need professional help from a therapist to figure out your wonky ideas about love. Most people would not be asking themselves the questions you do about him. Right now, you and relationships are a disaster until you figure this out.
People who need therapists are normal people who like you cannot figure feelings, emotions out and why you in this case love someone who did this to you. It's a toxic relationship and you have a habit of going back to it. Normal people, every day like you do not even allow for a third or fourth time to be cheated on. People who need help are blind to it. It's a good investment as your view is askew on dating and what is a healthy loving relationship and why or should I love a guy who stabbed me three times? If the answer in your head isn't no, talk about it with a professional as you are not thinking rationally about any of it.
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