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I'm so holy-crap overwhelmed by everything right now! Most of it's from this girl. Don't tell me that teens can't love. I'm 13, and I know what love is. I know I'm in love. But she doesn't like me back. So that's two things so far, love and rejection. Then there's jealousy, when I found out that she had an ex and her first kiss. Her ex is coming back. I know it. I can just feel it. And I have nobody to talk to about it: my parents don't understand (I tried), my friends are as equally nerdy as I am, and don't know a thing about love; I'm way too busy to go see a therapist; I'm too shy to tell her all this.
And of course school. I made all the advanced classes, so that's kinda annoying. But not as much.
And finally, orchestra. I'm in my regular orchestra, a chamber orchestra, an ensemble orchestra, and a jazz orchestra, and I'm also taking private lessons. So that's a holy-crap lot of music to practice.
And now I'm way to overwhelmed to focus on anything. I feel like Charlie Gordon, from Flowers for Algernon. At one point, he described himself as "a blind man allowed to see the light" and that's exactly how I feel. I never knew emotions before. Ever. Now that I know love, rejection, jealousy, etc, I know how to feel. And I've been trying to get over that girl, but I just can't! I can't even remember how I went through my life before I became obsessed with her, before I found Advicenators and started asking and ansering questions, before I knew how to love! I want to be normal again! I want to continue life as I previously had! I can't do anything! I'm just blabbering on and on and on, but there's so much to say! AAUGH!!!!!!!! I'm so pissed off, frusterated, angry, weirded out, overwhelmed, confusticated, and just plain SCREWED UP! Please help! I can't go on with life, I'm losing sleep!

Wow I'm happy I found your question because first of all, I know JUST how to help. This is gonna be lengthy so I appologize in advanced"

-It seems like you really love her. I know people say all this stuff about how when you're 13 you don't know what love is. Well, they're WRONG because I'm 13 & I fell in love so I know EXACTLY how you feel. Love hurts, it's hard, it's horrible & cruel & sometimes all you can do is face it.

-First of all, TAKE A BREATHER. Being overwhelmed is common, especially at our age. It deffinitely is obvious you've GOT ALOT OF STUFF going on & I know how that feels. You've just got to write stuff down, schedual it out. Then.. you have to face her.

-Okay, I know how friendship is one way & then the second you fess up to how you really feel things changed. You've got to tell her that you respect her & HER feelings so you'll be fine JUST being her friend. I know that seems like a lie to yourself & to her but you have to, just to get things back to normal. Then be friends again for a while & see how stuff is.

-I know these feelings are hard. I know they hurt & make you feel like you could just rip your heart out. Heartbreak is horrible & rejection is possibly one of the worst feelings out there.

-Shyness is understandable, I'm not asking you to tell her how you feel. Let me just say that it sounds like you would make an AMAZING boyfriend & if I was her I would deffinitely go out with you because you sound just absolutely SWEET & dedicated to her. Try your best to get things back on track in your life & then work on winning her because ANYTHING iS POSSiBLE WiTH LOVE

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(Rating: 5) Thanks mate... tha' was beau'ful. Seriouly, it almost made me cry... last time I cired was just after I told her how I felt.

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