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My name is Brad Marcum. I live in San Antonio, TX and am a Junior at Byron Steele High School. I know I'm pretty young to be giving advice, but I still love to help people, and if my advice helps just one person feel a little bit better, I'll be happy. My goal in life is to help people... whenever there's a disaster (which seems to happen often lately), I donate money. Don't let that fool you, though. My music tastes are rather hardcore (As I Lay Dying, Remembering Never, etc). I dress kinda unique... a tiny bit of punk, goth, and my own style. (I DO NOT WEAR GOTH MAKEUP.) I am fairly knowledgeable about computers and am going for a Computer Engineering degree, so you can ask me questions about technology in general and I will answer them to the best of my knowledge. I try to be open minded (this juxtaposed against me using the terms "punk" and "goth"... haha) and will never judge you for who you are without getting to know you very well. If you ever get bored, want to talk to me, or just need ANYONE to talk to, feel free to IM me on AIM at Acrid Euphoria, or, if it's necessary, call me at 210-313-1874. Yeah, I'm putting my phone number out there. If I don't answer (cause of work or school), leave your name and where I can call you back. Hope I can help you.
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Okay, I'm curious as to what you all think about this.
My boyfriend tends to travel in the summer. The summer between 11th and 12th grade, he went to Vegas. The summer after that (this one), he went to Florida. Both times, I cried quite a bit (I also happened to be PMSing both times, I think, but I'm not sure if that actually has anything to do with it). On saturday, he left for Florida again, for college. This is the start of (essentially) a five-year separation. I know this, and it upsets me...but I didn't really cry. I mean, there were a couple of tears, which he adorably wiped away, but there weren't like..."storms of tears", as a friend would put it. I really don't understand why I'm not more upset about him being gone. I won't see him until mid-December, and I'm used to seeing him quite a bit. (We're a very clingy/touchy couple)
We're engaged, so I'm not worried about him going and finding some other girl. He was only home for about two weeks, one of which I was stuck at school for, so I only got to see him for...well, threeish days (I kidnapped him, kinda, and kept him in my dorm), and then about four hours on friday before he left.
Shouldn't I be more upset that we're separated?
I think part of the reason I'm not is because I told him to go. He's going to Full Sail, which I hear is an incredibly good tech-school-type-place, and I wanted him to go and get a jumpstart on his career. I don't do regret, so I don't regret telling him to go, but I miss him...
But at the same time, I'm not upset...like...at all.
What's going on in my head? (Not that you can actually answer that...but you can try, right?)
Please, no stupid answers or chatspeak. I'll only rate you down.
-Siren =)
I've experienced something like this myself, only to a lesser degree. I think one of two things have happened, or possibly both. One, maybe you've simply become accustomed to the seperations; I know this next one is going to be long, but you're still slightly ready. More likely, though, I think the relationship between you two has matured into a deeper love. I get this impression from how you want him to jumpstart his career... you're really planning a life with him (haha, you're engaged right?), which is awesome. The bond between you two is now stronger enough to easily last the time. You're lucky to find someone you can mutually love so deeply. I hope the seperation doesn't go too bad, I hope you two are really happy. :)
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This makes sense, actually. Thank you. =)
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