I have a heart to help people; especially young people. I have a Bachelor's degree in pastoral studies and I can't wait to find a youth pastorate. Right now, I'm trying to pay off my school bill. I am married to a wonderful young lady who completes me. I don't know everything, by far, but I'll make this promise to you. Any advice I can offer will come from the infallible Word of God. What makes me think I can offer anything worthwhile. Well, it's God Who has the answers, but He utilizes His people as instruments. I, by reason of use (Heb.5), am able to help you understand what God says about your problem and how to respond to it. May God bless you and use me for His glory. --ByReasonofUse
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The "BLACK" Girl
I want new friends. i'm unpopular and desperate. Last year i had a few friends and my best friend is "WHITE". I don't want to hurt her feelings, but my new black friends don't like her. I secretly wish she would leave me alone with my new friends, even though that is messed up. Everybody thinks shes trying to act black, but the truth is shes more tough then me.
The "WHITE" girl
I feel like i'm losing my best friend, "BLACK". She hangs out with these new black girls now and ignores me in the classes that we have together. I don't really like her sometimes, but shes my best friend. she tries to be tough, but she lives in a really big house, believes EVERYTHING she hears in church, and has the stupidest mentality about fighting. ( If somebody punches her, she won't fight back.) She tells me that she dos'nt like to be around me because i talk about boys too much, but i know what the real problem is. I'm WHITE.
I'm the white girl, by the way. What should i do....I rate 5s for any decent answer.
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This is one of the most confusing questions I've seen on here, but then it hit me. Here's my very brief but honest answer. The Bible says, "Who can know the heart of a man, save the Spirit of God?" What this verse says is basically that we as humans cannot determine the true heart motive of another human. We can't see the heart. I suggest that you talk to your friend and both be honest. It is not a good idea to form preconceived notions and jump to conclusions, because that will only bias your conversation. Allow her to tell you what the problem is and stop guessing and playing these "role play" situations in your mind. Just be honest with her and take what she tells you at face value.
-By Reason of Use
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Rating: 5
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thanx for the advice....that makes so much sense about my friendship problem!
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