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I just started my Sophmore year of highschool. From the begining of Freshman year 'til now, I've lost MANY friends for stupid reasons. Mainly because I got into a fight with one girl that I was best friends with and then she got all of her friends to hate me too. Which was about 15 people. How nice right?
Anyway, I have a reputation of being a bitch. Because.. Well, I CAN be. But I'm really not when you get to know me.
I really want to try to change my reputation on being a bitch, I want to show people that I AM a good person and attempt to make new friends. But I really need help on changing my reputation. Any ideas? (link)
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There is a young actress named Lauren that I have interviewed in the past and she threw her castmate offguard during a scene and they kept it in and now use the line all the time. The character was to ask my young friend "How are you?" Instead of saying hello she said, "New Day, New Look, New insert name here."
Hopt apt to remember that for your problem. Much like the character in the story you have a choice each day to approach it as a new chapter, page, day book etc. You and you alone can spoil your own day by acting in a fashion of screw this, them, who cares? woe is me etc.
The problem is not what they are doing to you but
what you are allowing them to do to you through your own bad thoughts on them. I'll tell you the single most important lesson you can learn and it's this: Resentment and anger will hold you back and it is like drinking a tub of bleach each day. It will grab hold and make you--not them suffer and be repeatedly victimized. LET GO. and MOVE ON.
15 people or 20 annoyed does not matter worth a damn. You know how many people you piss off in 20-100 years? Loads and you know what half of them do not know your name anymore nor care unless you bring it all up and make them. Drop in, move on more exciting things to do and see.
As for being a bitch there's that mental little lie and devil to correct in your thinking. Think for a moment as this is what you are doing and is dumb: I think I am a bitch therefore I must be a bitch and have that reputation wahh wahh how do I change?
Simple, new book, new chapter, new day, new page. Be what you want to be to people and bite your acid tongue. Everything will flow smoothly as long as you do not THINK do not ALLOW yourself to act like a bitch. You are in driver's seat lnow when to slow down and put a stop sign up on certain behaviour.
Be yourself and do not say anything you would not want an elevator of people to say and also bear in mind everything you say can hurt someone so if angry etc do not say it and walk away. As a band member once told me "Do not share your anger unless the end result of it contributes to fixing things." Do not add fuel to fires. Let them burn out.
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Wow... Thanks alot that really helped.
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