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I'm 19, just graduated from high school. I have a boyfriend, his name is Josh, and I love him. I am pretty good at giving advice. I'm just not ever any good at taking my own advice. haha Always have been. I can help everyone else except for myself.

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ILL RATE 5'S NO MATTER WHAT!


I met this guy last week who was really interested in me but I wasn’t as interested in him(I was “talking” to one of his friends). Well we hooked up that weekend and told me he likes me. He called me everyday this week and I started to realize I liked him too and he asked me out on Thursday. Well we hung out this weekend and I started to REALLY like him but he didn’t treat me like a girlfriend at all. When we were with his friends he showed no affection whatsoever but when we were alone he would hug me and hold my hand and stuff. I talked to one of his best friends about it and he told me he would talk to him. On Saturday night my boyfriend called me and told me we should go back to just “talking” because he felt we were moving too fast and that going out with someone is a big step to him. I talked to his best friend and his best friend told me that he was the kind of guy who only showed affection when him and his gf are alone. He told me that my bf still really likes me but wants to slow things down. We were supposed to hang out on Sunday even though we aren’t goin out(he said we are still going to talk and hang out) but he called me and pretended like we never made plans of hanging out. I don’t know what I should do because I really like him (I’ve dated many guys this summer/school year but I’ve liked him the most and I think it’s because I feel like we actually connect).. should I go after him even though he could be leading me on? Or should I just forgot about him even though maybe we can make things work out?

It sounds like you may have intimidated him when you talked to his friend instead of him. If you had a problem with him not being affectionate in front of his friends, then you should have gone directly to him. Most guys would prefer it that way. And another thing. Guys aren't really affectionate in front of their friends. It's just the way they are. I know some guys such as the 'emo' ones are... they're very lovey dovie... but most guys tend to shy away from that for fear of being called a pansy. But you said he was affectionate when y'all were alone... that means he does indeed like you... you only had to worry if he wasn't affectionate at all. I think you should at least talk to him about it... and if he wants to take things slow, then take them slow... it'll be worth it, if you like him as much as you say you do. Just like girls... guys don't like to be pushed to do things they don't want to.

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(Rating: 5) ok thanks that is really good advice!!
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